Do you ever worry that you will be alone for the rest fo your life ??

[NuttyMuffins]

I do, seems to be a huge possibilty for me.

Yes I worry about this sometimes but also worry about getting into abother bad relationship and feel safe on my own....or just having casual relationships.

I believe all the corny stuff about it happening when yo least expect it, your prince will come etc. etc.

A girl can dream right!

I'd rather be alone than in a bad relationship!

I have decided not to have a romantic relationship again until my girls have all left home and with this LO on the way have set myself up for at least another 18 years .

I want to focus on being a mum and past relationships have just got in the way of me being my best. Only concern is lack of sex but thats what the pink rabbits for so it's sorted

"I'd rather be alone than in a bad relationship!" Totally agree

PMSL megandsoph, yes the purple rabbit is far greater than a man anyway, guaranteed pleasure! ...and no having to give BJs either!

pink, purple, whatever, they all do the same thing!

Im another one who would rather be alone than in a bad relationship.
I'm pretty sure I'll be on my own from now on as it will take a really special bloke to take on my autistic son. Shame really as I just got his reports from school, carers etc saying that he is the most delightful little boy.
My best friend on the other hand is with a bloke who refuses to care for his own 9 week old daughter.( Doesn't change her, feed her, hands her over if she cries etc) I've heard rumours that he has hit her, cheated on her etc and he has been warned but she stays because she 'Doesn't want to be alone at 30'

Thats so sad for your friend PC. I suppose though some people have different tolerance levels and of course self esteem is a huge factor.

CW, Rabbits are the best things since sliced bread!!

Tell me about it. She just doesn't think she is worthy enough.
He was moaning that he hasn't had sex in weeks, she said 'I just can't risk getting pregnant again' so I said 'Duh, wear a condom!' His response was 'I don't like them, she should make sure she don't get pregnant'
I then told him to get off his arse and help round the house. Do that and she may be willing to give you some.
I love her dearly but she is such a doormat.

'I don't like them, she should make sure she don't get pregnant' what an arse!!!

Yep. She had major blood loss from a haemmorrage(sp?) and was recommended not to have any more kids.She's fine with that, only wanted 2 anyway but last week he said 'I want another girl to balance things out.'(They have a son each from previous relationships and a girl together)
Me- 'She was advised not to have any more'.
Him- 'So?'
I soooo want to hit him but I don't out of respect for my friend. Doesn't stop my mouth going though.

Seriously what a wanker!! Putting her health at risk

Thankfully she has a lovely friend to lean on PC

OMG PC your poor friend!!

Unfortunately I know from experience that it's bloody hard to get out of these kind of bad relationships when your self asteem has been completely squeezed out of you . Sounds like even if he doesn't physically hurt her some serious emotional abuse is going on. Hopefully there will come a point when she says "enough is enough" and leaves.

yeah i worry about this too.

after nearly 2 years of being dicked around by my "depressed" h i am finally on the brink of making a break.

after 2 weeks of no contact i am realising how much the stress of having contact affects my relationship with dd who is 18m and amazing.

i looked back on a year's worth of photos yesterday. i felt 3 emotions, one was pride because obviously i was doing better than i thought at the time. one was sadness because i was so caught up in his illness and making the marriage work i don't think i enjoyed that time as much as i should have. the last was shame that i have allowed so much of his crap to affect me and bring my tolerance levels so low that dd hasn't had the best of me at times.

everyone is urging me to contact him but i'm fed up with it. it's always me who contacts him. he hasn't seen either of us since easter but tbh i just can't face getting into the stress and drama of it all.

it's not over till it's over but i want to enjoy my daughter now.

but i'd like to go out more, have more fun and feel special to someone again.

My 78 year old auntie got married last year - my 74 year old mum was a bridesmaid.

You see it's never too late to find someone!

I wouldn't say I worry about it, more that I've just accepted it.

I don't believe that potential partners are waiting to be found on the school run or while doing the weekly shop in tesco and I never go anywhere else. And...even if I did go anywhere else what kind of man is going to be interested?

Yes. And sometimes that feels depressing and other times it feels, well, completely OK, actually.

Like lots of posters, I am more scared of ending up in a bad relationship than of being on my own. I enjoy my own company, and my independence. I also have lots of friends, a half-decent social life and an absorbing job. I think all that does make a difference to the way I feel about being alone, so I can see where you're coming from, nutty.

I wouldn't mind falling madly in love again and being blissfully happy for the rest of my life, of course! But in reality I think I'd have a hard time adjusting to the demands of living with someone again, for example. I am very particular these days

i agree to all of this , feel the same but actually would love to meet someone who treats me well and does not let me down. They all let ME down because they are selfish and domineering. am very on my guard they are all a waste of time although i love men . Trouble is i go for the wrong men ..i.e. the ones I fancy and not the rocks ! ! !

i am quite sure i will be, how sad is thta, been single for 2 years now.....

dont go anywhere to meet anyone if i go out i go for meal with friends...

children dont go to there dad's overnight although my dad has them sometimes overnight, but then i am just so exausted to even think about going out i just want to relax in a peaceful house!!!! so there isnt much hope for me,

and then there is the whole thing of talking toa bloke, i have fancied this bloke for a year now i see him once a week on a wednesday he is LUSH and i cant even smile at him as i look at him and fireworks go off.... i think he likes me to but i convince myself that if he did he would ask me out but then he might see my kids one of whom is young and assume i am with someone (how wrong could he be)

snowonder - about talking to blokes...how do you do it anyway? I haven't spoken to any blokes who are not my dad, my ex-p, my mates DH for years. Obviously these men are not potential partners. I'd be a frightened rabbit if I was talking to a man that something might happen with

Just a little something to cheer all those who want to be coupled up (I mean, I would really rather stick pins in my eyes myself) but a dear friend of mine met a man through an internet dating site, and now they are getting married. So it is possible, but you probably have to bite the bullet and do stuff like online dating/dating agencies.

DS dad is using the same agency as my mate met her fiance through, and he says it's all right as well - he's certainly been having enough jiggy-jiggy to have put his back out for a week (Laugh? Moi?)

Ok, so I have stopped looking lol but still nothing

Everyone else seems to be meeting people.

I have looked onthe internet but don't want to travel far and there seems to be about 5 men within an hour of me on all the sites (same men!)

Can't really be bothered though

I have almost given up hope. My DS's dad was married to start with and when he left his wife, he went off with someone else...took on her 3 kids, never sees our son (his choice).
Second DS's dad treated me and DS1 so badly that I left him when 3 months pregnant last November.
My judgment is cr*p and I don't think I trust myself to find the right person to stay with, after the latest farce.
I still feel like I want to find someone though - even if it is scary - someone to take on me and my two lovely boys, one of whom isn't yet born.
I can't imagine reaching this mythical point where you 'stop looking' atm. Although I haven't met anyone at all since well before I got with DS2's dad...HELP!

Hang on I did meet a bloke thru an internet site, the one that's just for bikers. He seemed really nice but it was all going way too fast, he wanted to visit from Norfolk way, (we're in Kent) and I'd only been talking to him for a week.
I told him I was moving and would be offline for a while, he seemed to accept it and never stalked me but I do wonder why he was so desperate...trust issues again I suppose, from my point of view.
The whole internet dating thing scares the bejesus out of me personally!