As main carer how much maintenance do you receive for one child?

[Nikitasol]

Just that really. My ex is messing about with money and we're already on the breadline. I'm wondering how much other main carers get on the whole?

I know about the government calculator etc but would be good to get a general idea other then that.

I've got one dc.

My other half pays his ex 200pcm for three children but this is 150pcm over the child maintenance calculated amount based on his wage and fact we have them 18overnights a month on average. I'm pregnant so I assume this amount will change when the baby comes as he will have a resident child but I have no idea what he will pay - the child maintenance calculator saying it should be 7pcw as it is, but he won't pay that little as wants to help them. Which tbh is nice. He also pays school trips uniform clothes etc ontop.

He called you a leech!

Wow.

One phrase I kept repeating when there were witnesses and I had to be calm was that i wanted the sacrifices of parenting to be made more equal. Obviously they can never be made equal as I am the one who has been 100% responsible for them and that has impacted massively on my opportunities and my freedom but in terms of finances, I want the sacrifices of parenting to be made equal.

Kept repeating it like a calm reasonable parrot.

ps, I know it's not as simple as communicating well. I was lucky that I got to go before a judge in the end, as my xh wasn't self-employed. I also think he was getting to a point where he wanted to rebrand himself as a respectable man. I think he'd grown tired of the 'fight' and wanted the new role of a civilised co-parent. So I was lucky he had a new girlfriend to impress

I hope my eariler post didn't seem insensitive because I know it's not as simple as being reasonable. You cannot be reasonable on behalf of somebody ELSE. I know that.

The world we live in. I feel incredibly grateful that although I've missed out on a lot of freedom, a lot of opportunity, I am still grateful that my x husband has contributed to the cost of their up bringing. I said upthread he was paying 66% of the cost of raising them but i meant that I am.

It obviously doesn’t matter what other people get as what you get should depend in his income.

Zero because apparently his less than 1200 pcm earnings must be protected

He is self employed and earns way more though.