Being a single parent

[Mama16]

Hi everyone, can anyone give me some advise or tell me about their transition to becoming a single parent, it's everything from dividing up the family home, to arranging time with dad to setting up a new place of my own for me and my LO? The prospect of it all is terribly upsetting :(

Sorry you're going through this. I won't lie, this bit is awful.

But you will get through it and life will be good again.

Get a good solicitor if you need to and take it one step at a time. Good luck.

All I can say is in my history I have never cared about possessions.. Make sure you get your share..

Hopefully you can work towards something that works for DC.

Take it one day at a time.

Get support from family and friends where you can

Don't forget to look after yourself too

Go to mediation instead of court if it comes to that

Feels like impossible at times.. but nothing is impossible. ..just keep going and keep smiling. It will all work out in the end x

Hi Mama16, the first thing you need to do is look into how you will survive financially and make sure you're getting any benefits you're entitled to. Citizens Advice may be able to help you here. Then work out how much money you've got to play with and think about where you could afford to live.

You will probably need legal advice if you currently live in a house with your partner so find a good solicitor.

Regarding contact arrangements with your ex, this could be something you could discuss between you if things are amicable, but if not, again that would need to go through a family court - so again see a solicitor.

I recommend taking things one step at a time, as the whole process can seem overwhelming when you look at everything you've got to do. It's a bit of a hassle and can be stressful at times, but it's worth it for the freedom at the other end.

For the most part I prefer being on my own with my son without relationship stress. It can get lonely at times though so making some good friendships is a must.

Good luck with it, millions have done it and you'll be able to do it too. Deep breath and look after yourself x