whats the hardest thing about being a lone parent?

[sunnyjim]

anyone? the good the bad and the ugly please

Yep although I am getting more and more used to it as time goes on, and would rather stick hot needles in my eyes than ever have xp back here, which is good i suppose LOL.

The loneliness is a killer with me though tbh, I just get so fed up of sittig here talking to myself.

The worst thing for me is feeling that I am not enough or good enough for my dc's. Also being completely torn in two when my dd had to go to hospital this week and I had to leave ds to be with her, I didnt want to leave either

i wouldnt go back to my ex either

i dont get lonely really, just worn out with always being the one on call

Aww emskilou, don't feel bad about that, it's one of those things that has to be done and your ds probably didn't think anything of it. Hope your dd is on the mend now.

God i wish i didn't get lonely Lou, I hate it.

I know what you mean about being worn out though too, I am always so exhausted by the end of the week that I practicaly pray for a bit of a lie in.

my bf is usually here at weekends and he insists i dont get up as they are big enough to help themselves, but he is emigrating at the end of next week so i'll probably get disturbed every 5 mins again.

I have spent the week with minimal use of my right hand as it is swollen and bruised.
I want someone to cook for me

do you live near me?

don't think so , Cumbria?

lol not really i am in surrey

sorry i cant cook for you

geting better now hopefully , have had kids doing own sandwiches as buttering is hard!They have been really good!

Agree, the no lie ins, can't pop out and get milk, electricity on key (yes I am that crap and disorganised) is the worst thing practically speaking.

I have to admit that I felt incredibly lonely and miserable for about 6 months after my ex and I split, but now I feel a lot happier. I have some freedom in he shape of babysitters (maybe a night every couple of weeks).

Money is an issue for us, but I think that if all of the above are the most we have to pay to be a happy family by ourselves, then it isn't bad at all.

see i can pop out and get groceries as my oldest is almost 15, so that helps a bit

i dont mind being a single mum at all, i have enjoyed my 1st year with ds more than any other time in my life and hope the rest is as good as this but i must agree that finances could do with a boost but we have enough and also i have not had a lie in for a year!!!!!!!! there is no-one i would leave ds with!

I love having the bed all to myself!

I'm not a single mum, but please forgive me for butting it.

Because my dh works away and doesn't seem to notice:
I never get a lie-in
I never go out
I have to take my kids everywhere to buy milk
I never get a hair cut
Etc.

BUT I still have to listen to and acknowledge his opinion.

The plus - no money worries.
BUT hey count your blessings - as "singletons" it's your opinion that counts and no-one can say no to you!

i do like making my own decisions without discussion

ooh yeah me too Lou, started a thread the other week about going o holiday with a friend (and my kids) and dreading having to discuss decisions!

yeh thats why i travel alone usually !

Me too but Friend has had an awful time lately and when she asked me I felt I couldn't say no.

then you are a good friend to have

Watching whatever I want on TV.
Not having to have a big debate about anything at all.
Not having to listen to crappy music.
Not having to have the house in immaculate show home condition.
No more hoping in vain that I might get some help.

having a teenager i still have the tv/crap music to argue over

Hey Lou, was delighted to read about the army hunk's intention to come back to you. Top news.
I'm seriously dim today. Read the thread the wrong way around and was proclaiming all the good things about being on my own.
TBH, struggling to think about bad things, other than the fact I've got less money. Shows how crap my marriage was!!!

i pretty much agree bugsy

thanks for your happy thoughts, i hope he doesnt change his mind!

Dont want to gatecrash - was just looking through active conversations and noticed this - have been sitting thinking today - dp in germany for last month on business so ... watched 'The Holiday' on DVD - couldnt help thinking what a fantastic single father Jude Law played - what loveley children, what a nice guy and film in fact. Oh heck, think dp should come back soon, starting to think of these things now I have had a taste of only 2 hands for childcare! Am now having a rant, and want to 'hats off' to single mums, my best friend found herself a single mum to a baby of 6 months, 7 years ago - what a wonderful woman - seems to have a unique ability to 'just cope'. Have to admit like to know that usually I have a 'back up plan'....