Support for new single dad

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Hi
I'm about to become a single dad with 50% acces to my 2 amazing kids - aged 6&3
I'm looking for advice on being a single dad, living alone etc

I have looked on gingerbread which is ok but can't seem to get the forums to work

Thanks

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smae as single mums. work with the other parent on parenting even if you can not stand being in the same room as them sometimes. (vent somewhere else, she might need to do the same too, as I am sure you annoy each other)

make sure you both have the things the children need in each house so they are not constantly packing.

do have a transition object though that can travel from house to house. (eg teddy)

If its 50/50 then get connected to all the school communications etc. Dont rely on your ex to tell you about costumes / PE kits/ assemblies etc. Be proactive about haircuts, dentists, new shoes, upcoming events. Have as little as possible needing to.go between the two.houses

Thanks. Some good advice there.

I don't mean to be patronising but it is the norm that in most families it's the mum that stays on top of a lot of that kind of stuff. My ex sees the kids EOW and doesn't really do any actual parenting, just fun stuff. If you are 50/50 then as I say, be proactive. Don't offer to take them to the dentist and ask when the appointment is, actually take the initiative if you see what I mean.

Angry gives really good advice. If there is one thing that winds me up about my ex, it's that he thinks I'm some sort of PA when it comes to DC and that I will 'actively keep him up to date' and will chuck a few quid at me when I ask for it if I have bought clothes/shoes. He will also ask if I have arranged certain appointments that he feels are important

So initiative is very important.

I agree. I intend to be a proper parent and not just be the one who does the fun stuff.

I want to be a role model for my kids - I will look and learn from all you great moms and dads