Since hearing myself & H are soon to live in separate houses, DS1's behaviour has been just awful.

[pinkchampagne]

I know it's to be expected, but I am finding it so hard to cope with.
He doesn't do what he is told for me, answers back, sulks & strops and generally just pushes the boundaries all the time.
He says things like "You are not the boss of this house, daddy is" when I try to discipline him.
I am really struggling with the boys atm. I feel I am losing my grip, and I am scared of managing on my own.

Thanks, GF, hope you have a good day too.

We haven't yet seen him this morning, as he is still in bed. Have no idea what time he rolled in, so he is probably nursing a hangover!

The boys & myself are going round to see one of my friends later.

Good to hear and even better that he staying out of your way today.

How long do you think it will be until you move? Have you started packing and sorting yet? I moved from a six bedroom to a three bedroom house and it was an absolute nightmare to sort, including throwing away loads of Xs stuff which was great fun!

No idea of a moving date yet, glitter. Will let you know as soon as I get more info.

I am going from a 4 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom one, so will have to be a bit ruthless - but H will be taking some bits.
I haven't even thought about packing yet!!

Only just caught up with this, pinkchampagne. So sorry that you are having a hard time .

Blu's advice sounds excellent, as ever.

Hi dino. Yes, Blu always gives good advice & I try to use it too!

H has calmed a bit now thankfully, and he has now had his offer accepted on the flat he wants!

I am going to chase up my mortgage man tomorrow because this is holding things up my end.

I can't help feeling a little bit excited for you, pinkchampagne!

I will keep you updated!

mortgage should be sorted in next 48 hrs!

PC sorry to hijack thread, but have you spoken to your parents this evening? Someone was having a massive bonfire over the back of their house and Im not kidding the flames were as high as the house, I felt quite scared and would worry incase of any damage to your parents property!

No I haven't spoken to my parents tonight & DS1 is round there tonight. Should I be worried here?

Spoken to mum & apparantly there are no bonfires now!

what didnt they see the flames they were huge!

It seems not!

Hello PC how are you? TOday is a busy day for me as my dd and ds were born on the same day three years apart. My ds is away on a residential so only have to cook one favourite meal but that is enough as I am on a juice diet myself.

I am ok thanks, GF.

Happy birthday to your DD & DS! Must be tough keeping to a juice diet while cooking lovely meals - I admire your willpower!!

Boys being a nightmare again & I am finding it really hard to cope.

Hi PC
Have posted a little on your threads before but have been closely following.
Just wanted to send you lots of hugs and support. You're doing so well and coping brilliantly. The end is in sight - not long now until you and the boys have a fresh start. All kids can be trying at times, and it's only natural that your DS's will be a little unsettled for a while, but once you've moved they will soon settle down. You are coping so well, and you've come so far, you're allowed to have the odd wibble! Can you have a couple of hrs away from the boys? Any idea of how long until you move?

Shouldn't be long now, lovelybird. Was told the survey is either being done today or tomorrow, on the house I'm buying.

The boys are both testing me to the max atm, in totally different ways, and I am finding it hard to keep calm & on top of things, like I should be.
I feel I could sometimes just shut myself in a room all on my own & cry!

Sometimes I don't cope that well, I really don't.

Their dad has been on a 12 hour shift all week, so I have not had much break from them other than when I am at work (with children!) all week.
They push me so much more when he's not around. I guess they do want reassurance that I will be boss in his absence, but sometimes it's more than I can cope with.

PC hope you are ok. Kids push you as they get older to see where their boundaries are and how far they can go with you. Mine pretty much know now when I get "stressy" as they call it and how far to go but it has taken a year or three!

Having them twenty four hours a day every day is stressful but the rewards are huge.

I am ok thanks, GF. Ignore my dramatic moments!
I have had a bit of a wobbly couple of days, but I am ok this morning & rather embarrassed by yesterdays posts!

Hope all is still good with you.

PC, I couldnt let this post go without commenting! You are the boys stable thing in their life! They need you big time at the mo(you know that already!!). I think DS1 behaviour is mainly directed at you and to see how far he can push you, have you wondered how he would behave if you ignored that kind of behaviour- cant stop thinking about when I picked you guys up for sch the other morning, everytime we said come on he would give a little grin. he was almost enjoying it! youknow ignore the bad and concerntrate on the good- or even praise DS2 for something(almost play one off with the other) it must be worth a try!

Keep up the good work! It will be worth it in the end!

I know, bubble - but it is not easy to do that in the morning when I am rushing! He would happily continue messing about, not put his shoes on etc etc!