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Since hearing myself & H are soon to live in separate houses, DS1's behaviour has been just awful.

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pinkchampagne · 01/03/2007 18:12

I know it's to be expected, but I am finding it so hard to cope with.
He doesn't do what he is told for me, answers back, sulks & strops and generally just pushes the boundaries all the time.
He says things like "You are not the boss of this house, daddy is" when I try to discipline him.
I am really struggling with the boys atm. I feel I am losing my grip, and I am scared of managing on my own.

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pinkchampagne · 08/03/2007 22:57

Really good to hear that, GF.
I will mail you tomorrow, as I have been out tonight & am v tired, but would love to hear how you're doing.

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pinkchampagne · 09/03/2007 15:42

Have just mailed you, glitter.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 17:36

DS1 has been such a good boy today, but his dad has been so horrible & really upset the boys.

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glitterfairy · 10/03/2007 17:40

Typical! Soon he will have to make more of an effort though PC or things will go badly wrong for him with them.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 17:47

He's being a git because he's going out & realised he hadn't washed a certain pair of jeans, so we are suffering for it.
Poor DS's.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 18:12

He's gone out now thankfully, so I am going to rescue poor DS1's new book from the dustbin.

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glitterfairy · 10/03/2007 18:32

Oh YUK! Honestly you will be so much better off without him around to throw temper and strops around.

As you know I have a very low opinion of men who are bullies and throw their temper and violence around, whether emotional or physical at women and kids.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 18:35

It was just awful, GF.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 18:40

I took him upstairs & comforted him, because H was telling him he would go to bed if he dared to cry.
I told him I would save his book & I have.

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Blu · 10/03/2007 18:53

He threw his new book in the bin and then threatened him if he cried?

Nasty cruel bully. It's so unhealthy. Poor Ds1 Poor you.

But I guess there is a definite countdown in place now??

It's SO hard because all the time you are working so hard to re-assure the boys, and cope with their behaviour, H is just undermining all your good work and upsetting them again.

What a bastard.

But hopefully you will enjoy a relaxed evening with him out.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:06

Yes, he threw his book in the bin because it was on the kitchen floor. DS was finishing his tea & he asked him to pick up his book. Poor DS picked up his drawing book which was on the table, which of course wasn't the book that H wanted him to pick up, so he picked up the other one & threw it in the dustbin.
DS got tearful & then H threatened him that he would go to bed if he cried.
I took DS upstairs away from H & he shouted after me that I had better shut him up.
He was then shouting & swearing about not being able to find the water thing for the iron.
It was all spurred because of his chuffin jeans.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:09

My heart was racing with anxiety, so goodness knows what it was doing to poor DS1.
He has just said to me "Daddy was mean, but I still love him"

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:21

Thanks, Fio. I am having NHS couselling atm (third round!), but the counsellor is ultra busy atm, so can only see me every 4-6 weeks. I might look into some kind of private counselling, as you only get a limited no of sessions with NHS counselling.

I don't normally post much about H under my regular name, but I couldn't think of another name to post this under tonight.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:24

2 years??!! Blimey Fio, that's awful!!!

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mamama · 10/03/2007 19:24

OMG, PC, how awful. Poor DS1. And poor you.

He sounds like a very brave little soul though.

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mamama · 10/03/2007 19:26

2 yrs??

Now I'm really worried about coming back - I don't think I could survive 2 years without counselling - I desperately need mine atm.

Am all worried now!!

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:29

Glad you found such a good counsellor in the end, Fio. I will CAT you for the details.
My counselling has helped me a lot, but with such long gaps between sessions atm, I kind of forget where I left off!

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 19:30

I only waited around 6 weeks, mamama, but I did keep pestering the doctors & I think they got sick of me!

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mamama · 10/03/2007 20:25

I'm not proud, I'm happy to beg! And cry... whatever it takes

glitterfairy · 10/03/2007 21:35

You have all made me feel very special in getting mine free from Womens Aid but I guess the journey there isnt so good.

I hope things settled down a bit tonight PC. Have just emiled you again.

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pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 23:41

Thanks, GF, will check e mails now.
Am feeling lots calmer now he has been out a while & I have had a friend round.

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glitterfairy · 11/03/2007 08:29

Good glad you had a better time. HAve a great SUnday.