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haven't had sex for 4 yrs!!!!

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mrscelibate · 18/06/2004 23:32

right! is this a problem?

is there anyone else in the same situation? please?!

god, what on earth do i expect when i finally do 'do it'?

HELP!!!!!!!!

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essbee · 18/06/2004 23:51

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mrscelibate · 18/06/2004 23:55

is it a horrendously long time?! oh i do know it is but i've never met anyone that i've really liked and i don't want to sh*g just anyone just for the sake of it.

am having a slight crisis!!!

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mrscelibate · 18/06/2004 23:55

btw have obivously changed my name for this!

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essbee · 19/06/2004 00:02

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Bettybloo · 19/06/2004 00:08

It'll probably be great when you finally do do it, because since you're being choosy it'll be with someone you really, really like. Are you having a crisis now because you've met someone and the possibility is looming, or because you're feeling like you might never do it again?

essbee · 19/06/2004 00:11

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mrscelibate · 19/06/2004 00:22

cos i'm feeling like i might never do it again!!

can't believe how quickly 4 yrs has gone.

no haven't had a relationship(and therefore sex) since i had my child-aaaargh!!!!

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ChicPea · 19/06/2004 01:41

How old are you MrsCelibate if you don't mind me asking?

tammybear · 19/06/2004 01:49

its been two years this month for me

chloeb2002 · 19/06/2004 19:04

i may be odd but been a good while for me too but i figure its an individual thing? I have big issues since broke up with ex. I guess everyone has their own reasons? DD was totally unplanned pill baby and although i knew the risks ex p decided he didnt! couldnt go through that again just yet and as abstenence is the only safe method ill stick to it till my head is straight!! I also dont think there are that many fish in the sea that tickel my gills!

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mrscelibate · 19/06/2004 19:17

i'm 27-does that make it worse or better?!

i just can't find anyone i fancy! don't go out that much-money, babysitter etc-don't want just a one night stand. where do you meet nice men?

tammybear, ignore this if you want... i thought you were in a relationship?

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icemaiden · 19/06/2004 19:20

Haven't had sex since dd conceived - she is 14 months. And I live with dp!!!

tammybear · 19/06/2004 19:24

i am. but because of problems i had when giving birth to dd as i was stitched up wrong and too tight as i tore three times, and other problems, it hurts too much. when me and dp tried it was like a knife had stuck itself up me. not to put anyone off having sex of course! but im having it all sorted out as much as i dont want to because i got to have an operation and i dont want to lol

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mrscelibate · 19/06/2004 19:46

tammybear

thats kind of what i'm worried about-that something might not be quite right after having had ds and i wouldn't know cos i haven't had sex.

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tammybear · 19/06/2004 19:53

ive been trying to avoid the operation as i really REALLY dont want to go through with it. the doctor i saw completely put me off it, as I was suppose to have it last year, but he was really unsympathetic, and caused me even more pain. well anyway, since i know that it does really hurt, im now having to do it.

before we tried, i was scared that it would really hurt, so i would always tensed up. when i finally managed to relax, it hurt so much i screamed and kicked him off lol. now i just tense up and wont let him anywhere near me, so i really have to get it sorted.

you dont really know until you try i suppose. do you have relatives who can look after your child so you can go out?

essbee · 20/06/2004 11:57

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tammybear · 20/06/2004 16:23

essbee - why did he say that its best not to have the anesthetic, and how long after did it hurt?

essbee · 23/06/2004 01:11

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gettingthere · 27/06/2004 20:36

mrscelibate. I didn't have sex for about the same amount of time with my exh before we split up. It is nervewracking with someone new after that long BUT good!!! Do you have a good male friend who could 'help out'- a lot of women do this ( I did). Not everybody would feel comfortable with that, but I agree with you that you don't want to just do it for the sake of it.

Careful22 · 30/07/2022 03:48

I haven't had sex for 4 years now. All my dreams involve extremely wonderful sex
I've been very patient with this menopausal stuff but if I don't get laid soon. I think I'm goingj to explode.

theniceunderstandingone · 30/07/2022 04:00

I've not had sex since my daughter was conceived on 12th october 2019.

LSS - he was a bootycall. Used a condom and it broke, took the MAP and that didn't work. Apart from the sex I can't stand him so he wasn't involved in pregnancy or now.
I'm single and not happy with my body to try and meet anyone but I am HORNY AS HELL. I think about sex several times a day

I don't know when I will ever get my rocks off again but I'm sure when I do it will be like riding a bike (with a little hip cramp) 🤣🤣🤣

FilePhoto · 30/07/2022 04:04

Why on earth has an 18 year old thread been revived?

theniceunderstandingone · 01/08/2022 01:35

@FilePhoto Wowzers I didn't even notice the date until your comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣

CrapBag39 · 01/08/2022 01:39

My eldest was only 9 days old when this thread was started 🥲he’s off to uni in September! HTF did this get dug up after 18 years?!!

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