Decided to have a break but where now..?

[bellarosa]

h and I have decided to take time out, except now thats decided, i have no idea about how to go about dismantling our lives...

We have two dd's both under 2 yrs old.

we are renting at the moment, but in middle of buying house, run two buisnesses from home, no family close by,
i need to remove myself and dd's from h as he has drugs misuse issues and he needs to get himself together before
i would consider any form of reconsilliation.

Basically where do i start?!

Hi Bella - sorry lots of thoughts from reading your mail

would you be able to run the business from any address? Are you taking over running both business while DH sorts himself out?

Can you both afford to rent seperately? Sorry if that sounds too personal I just meant will you be ok for cash if you have both DD's to care for also?

Are you feeling ok now you have made decision

Well, start with the big things - home. Don't proceed with buying a house, find a flat of your own to rent, or if the situation is really bad try ringing a refuge? Who's business's are they? If they are yours, unless they are registered for some reason at that address and can only be at that address (no idea if that is possible - I am guessing) you can just move them. As long as you do not depend on your H for an income, you should be ok. Well, even if you do, you will get benefits if you cannot afford to live.

Oh Bella i really feel for you.

Like TVT and Quootie said - you can probably run businesses from somewhere else, so try not to worry about that.

Can you stay with someone, parents maybe? Even if it means moving farther away? or can you get on an emergency housing list from the council? Given the fact that you have 2 very young daughters you would probably be housed within a day or so. I believe they will put you up in a B&B until a house is available too, if you tell them you are homeless.

Or could you not ask him to move out so you can keep renting the place you are in and not have to move dd's? obviously that is dependant on monay, but remember that as soon as you seperate he will have to pay maintenance to you.

I hope you are ok