First Christmas waking up alone

[unicornspooprainbows]

3 Christmases since divorce, this will be first one without waking in an empty house first one spent night with an online fling who was in same boat, which was awkward as I bought him a token present to open in morning and he got me fuck all

This year I am wondering whether to have a "pre-Christmas day" for me and DCs so the day before Christmas Eve, wake up - do big presents (save smaller ones for actual day), have full Christmas dinner, watch Christmas films etc. get chance to play with presents. Actual Christmas Day Dcs arrive to me Christmas Day at 12, then we are travelling 3 hours to my DPs, for few days for the festivities.

What does everyone else do??

Meant to say first one without DCs, first one waking up to an empty house 🙈

Sorry you've had no replies....

Do you normally enjoy the days you wake up with the house to yourself? I know I do. If that's the case then put the Christmas stuff aside and treat it as one if those days. You've the choice of spending it having a lovely lazy morning with treats and breakfast in bed or just get up and do something random like clearing out that cupboard you've been meaning to do for ages.

Have a hug anyway, it's a Monday morning after all.

Yes definitely have your own Xmas day on Xmas eve or the day before. What about a theatre trip too if there's anything available near you?

As for Xmas morning, plan yourself a really nice breakfast, have a lie in, nice hot soak in the bath and 12 will come round quick as a flash!

We are making big deal of Christmas eve. DS doesn't sleep at his dad's..but he's going xmas day. So Christmas Eve is our new celebration. In fact we started celebrating already :)

Just place marking till later...

Off to work in sec but will post.

Thanks everyone, only just seen these.

I'm just going to treat it like any other day (bath and breakfast sound fab idea though!), we'll have had our 'Christmas day' day before Christmas eve so I'm not going to get stressed about it. Since the divorce I've not exactly been a Christmas fan anyway, and this year has been horrendous for me so just drawing a line and looking forward to 2016!

Hey unicorn. I'm on second Xmas since split. Last year I was at parents with DS. Ex was on his own shagging his girlfriend

This year we're splitting day but opposite to you. I get Christmas morning. DS going to dad's family on afternoon and for his lunch, and overnight.

Then I collect DS next day to travel to see my family.

So I'm alone for Xmas afternoon/evening.

I'm planning lovely walk with dog. Chatting on phone to loved ones. Eating non traditional Xmas dinner (not decided what yet) . Drinking, eating chocolate, watching loads tv and having lovely long sleep! Think I'll be fine.

I think you have to enjoy your family time with dcs on Christmas eve or before as you suggest, then enjoy your own time hopefully. Lie in, nice food, telly or treat self to new book for Christmas or even go out somewhere lovely and enjoy quiet.

I think we have to try not to hanker after the family Xmas we imagined and make sure kids are happy and we manage different kind of happy day for ourselves. It is after all just a day.

And yes, on to 2016 and better things too I hope

Hi confused, thanks for this. It's good to know we are not alone. Perhaps all us 'alones for Christmas' should start a chat thread on Xmas day.
You are absolutely right, it's just another day after all. Couldn't have agreed more. [santa]

Well my arrangements are going down the pan as ex is a liar and likes playing games. He's shifting goalposts leaving me scared to let him take DS for Xmas as I'm not confident I'll get him back when we had agreed.

He's now saying DS staying for lunch boxing day despite him already agreeing to me collecting him from in laws, en route to my family.

This would mean not arriving at my family's until evening, driving 100s miles in dark. It's all a game.

Can't be reasonable with a narcissist. He didn't get the row he wanted so he's had to try harder.

Sorry for rant. Need to vent!

Oh no confused! What a complete arse! He can't just change plans like that!! Don't let him!

Well not much I can do other than say no, stick to time I said and hope they answer the door. I've got my solicitor to send another letter today. I don't want to speak to him as its just opportunity for him to get at me.

I aim to develop Zen like immunity to fuckwittery by boxing day.

Blimey what a cock....he sounds just like my ex. Knobheads.

Thanks unicorn. See you in chat Xmas day then...as long as I'm not too pissed to remember

Oh cross out fail there. Oops!

Happy Christmas confused

Thanks prizey. Very happy Christmas to you too and to unicorn

Ex was a nob at pickup but had good walk with dog, a glass (OK 3) of prosecco and now I'm going to have a nap. Hope everyone is doing OK.