As soon as my baby's father found out I was pregnant he did a runner. Anyway I started seeing someone at 10 weeks and just before my baby was born we made things official; he told me he was perfectly fine with the fact I was pregnant an it wouldn't change anything etc. however when she was born he told me that she reminde him of his baby sister (that died at 2 weeks old), so he needed some space. He met her one time and it was so awkward he couldn't look at her etc, and she wasn't exactly in the best mood - I couldn't put her down or she'd not stop crying. She's 5 months old now and he's never seen her since, I've only seen him a handful of times but I've tried to explain that if he wants to stay with me then he needs to spend time with her, but he claims when we're all together we can't spend time together properly because all I'm doing is looking after her.
I really love this guy and he makes me really happy; I've been really down about being a lone parent and he's one of the only things that keeps me happy. However, I don't know where to go from here, do I give him more time? An ultimatum? Or just end things completely? (Which I really don't want to do). I really thought things were going to stay the same between us once id had the baby but I didn't realise he wasn't bothered because he thought he'd have nothing to do with her.
Does anyone have any advice? And please no horrible comments, I obviously know I need to do something about it! Thanks 