Contact and twunt

[NobleLocks]

My ex is a twunt of the highest order, I took him to court for a court order.
Dd now goes two weekends a month and I drop her and off nearly 3 hours away on a Saturday afternoon and she is back by tea time in the Sunday.
My latest issues are:
1)he drops he off the Sunday and we don't hear from him until next contact. I say we I mean DD. did aged 3 asked me last night 'why doesn't daddy want to talk to me on the phone? Does he not love me?'

2. I work, I'm a parents and I'm a student. He later

Thank you all! Makes me realise I'm not going crazy!

The threats have started:

Either I'm there at 2pm or I can carry on without his help or he will take me to court.

Eh???

Let him.

Exactly surely that was a silly thing to say mind!

His help, what help????

Court? Bring it on

You haven't refused contact, the dc have been made available and the fact he hasn't been bothered to come and collect them whilst applying to the court to make you carry on with the travelling speaks volumes to the court.

That's exactly my thoughts too. I'm wondering if he means his maintainence by the way of help?

Well maintenance is payable whether he bothers with ds or not. Is it through the CMS or a private arrangement?

Perhaps he think he is doing you a favour by having Ds overnight?

Maybe he does mean payment, but then I would go through CMS, probably anyway, so that he couldn't use it as leverage.

Have you replied?

I haven't replied I don't know what I can say.

Oh I know full well he thinks having dd over night is doing me a favour

And I presume he has said nothing this afternoon.

I'd just leave it, then.

I thought my phone would be ringing off the hook but no, nothing

I've been quite poorly with laryngitis and a chest infection so give less of a shit than normal.

Sounds like a token effort, probably for his mother's sake.

Exactly I can't help feeling this isn't the end of it though

He'll probably make a big song and dance out of you denying him contact and dragging to court and then be horrified to find out he'll get the same level of contact only he'll have to do the running!

He'll be more interested in the fight than actually the relationship with his DD

Exactly Random, yet again!

well done for sticking to your guns.

You may find he has the perfect opt out now..She won't let me see him.He can go into victim mode..

Hope you feel better soon been a LP and poorly is tough

Op, can I just ask, what 'order' did you take him to court for ? You mention in your first post that you took him to court. I am interested as have a good friend who is in a similar situation but court has advised she cannot 'apply for an order' as she already is the resident parent and therefore the children reside with her. The only person who could take anyone to court with regard to child contact is the non resident parent where the order will be made in their favour setting out when you must make the children available as per the order. It's all very one way - as despite being the one to apply for an order he has no obligation to actually turn up and can just choose not to see his children without consequence. OP can I ask what order you got, I am intrigued as it sounds like something my friend could do with .?

Mine was a contact order, a c100 form. I was advised by MN at the time.
There is a lot of guidance online for it. Also a Facebook group called representing yourself in court is very helpful

thank you, I've been thinking about this all night. I know now I've given him the perfect get out free card as I know he won't take me to court as 'I've taken all his money' apparently! Maintainence eh!

I'm now going to have to quit my job as they have stipulated I need to work some hours of a weekend every other weekend and my parents have said they can't help out

So I'll have no money now

And after nearly six weeks of no contact he's texting me demanding I drop dd off tommorow.
Yes on a Friday confirmation again.
Telling me I'm breaking the order etc. I'm not strong enough for this!

Noble - you are doing great. Just ignore him. Been through something similar-ish msyelf. And am now taking ex to court over it like you did previously.

There is no direction for you to go drop her off, you can make her avilable should he wish to come get her. Secondly, it's not unreasonable to put your foot down over sporadic contact, and requesting a building back up to prior contact arrangements for your DD wellbeing.

Just ignore him. It's just all smoke and mirrors so that he can get at you and make out to his family he is doing the right thing.

Did you sort out the work thing in the end?

Eventually and my neighbour babysits.

It's all down to me dropping her off, how can I at such short notice, issues not resolved and Poor dd having not so much as a phone call

Now he's threatening me with solicitors

yahboo.sucks.

solicitors will write you a letter at his expense...
six weeks of no contact... his choice..

let him try. twonk