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still no payment under new cmo

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totallyjaded · 31/01/2015 09:56

What is my ex playing at? They are going to put him on collect and pay which will cost him an extra 20% per month. Am I missing something here why is he still delaying payment? Is this to punish me? I know I could tie myself in knots looking for the answers but really am I missing something?

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Anacoreta · 31/01/2015 20:49

How long have you waited?

Starlightbright1 · 31/01/2015 21:41

I am guessing because he thinks he can get away with it.

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totallyjaded · 31/01/2015 21:48

2 payments missed. Under their new rules there is no way he can dodge it unless he packs his job in is there? Keep thinking he must know more than me cos he's so sly. I'm not missing anything am I?

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KarmaNoMore · 31/01/2015 21:55

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Starlightbright1 · 31/01/2015 22:30

I agree call them ...I am still under CSA but I am guessing if you don't inform them..they may only look at arreas from when you informed them

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totallyjaded · 01/02/2015 10:46

Told them straight away and they are putting him on collect and pay if he doesn't pay up. Stupid delay tactics that are only going to hurt himself aren't they? You shouldn't rely on the money I suppose but my baby boy needs so much at the minute. So selfish

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Starlightbright1 · 01/02/2015 20:42

It shocks me how many NRP don't want to financially help to support there own kids... I really would like to know the real reason....not the she will only spend it on herself type excuse.

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totallyjaded · 01/02/2015 23:06

You're so right there! I think the fact he doesn't want to know him and he felt forced into fatherhood is the main factor. He only got in touch when csa did. Its not like I was a bit on the side or anything either we were together properly for a very long time. he just didn't want my boy. He's an absolute sociopath IMO I'd outlived my usefulness. Someone said to me he can't face you because of the guilt. If he felt that guilty he would just pay wouldn't he? I honestly believe Star that these men don't give a shit at all.

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KarmaNoMore · 03/02/2015 00:50

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totallyjaded · 03/02/2015 22:51

I think thats worse than them just not bothering at all Karma. I'm so sorry your little boy had to go through that. It seems to me once responsibility becomes too much they just walk away because it suits them. Its pretty low to do it at any time but to bond with a child then just leave like its not important anymore is unforgivable. I have opinions on people that support these men too. I can honestly say I would not be with a man if he did not see his child.......no excuses. And I'd want some really good evidence for a story that says 'her mother won't let me see her'

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KarmaNoMore · 03/02/2015 23:09

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