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mummymcphee · 10/09/2014 20:22

Our dd turns three tmw and so her wonderful pa has stopped paying maintenance....direct debit just didn't enter account today. I was going to use the cash to pay for DD's party and present. I cannot contact him as after her first birthday he called the police to say he didn't want contact. At the time he was living across the road with his new gf. In some ways I am shocked that given his behaviour (ignoring us both in the street since before her birth) he has even been bothered to pay his earth shatteringly huge sum of £25.00 a week.

Should I walk away with my head held high and find some other way of drumming up the missing cash...obviously being single mum not currently rolling in cash or do I go down the route of CSA or whatever it is now called. His most recent GF has two kids who live in and he has 2 older children who he does support and see. He is self employed and his ex ex ex helps him cook his books. At the moment despite poverty and debt I prefer the option of walking away.

Anything to cheer me up welcome.....

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Flexibilityisquay · 11/09/2014 10:54

Happy birthday to your DD! I think you need to go down the CSA route, he can't just ignore his daughter and expect her to go away because she is not convenient! I hope you have managed to sort something out for her party and present. It makes me so cross when people think they can just opt out of their responsibilities like that. Don't let him get away with it!

Theoldhag · 11/09/2014 17:44

I'm so sorry to hear that he is an inconsiderate cunt, your poor dd.

I hope that she is having a fab birthday and that you are having a lovely day too.

Thanks Wine and Cake for you

starlight1234 · 11/09/2014 18:31

hope your daughter has a very happy birthday.

You are legally entitled to it but if he is self employed and books are been cooked I have serious doubts if you would get anything so I am not sure what I would do.

How heartbreaking for you though.has he given a reason for no contact and ignoring her ?

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