Monotony - who else is tired of it?

[Alambil]

another evening alone
another evening in front of the telly / internet / crochet / books
another evening.... zzzz

another weekend....

I see my family every day (they have DS whilst I'm at work) and every weekend, so it's not like I'm "alone" as such, but I'm just so lonely and I'm the ONLY single parent in the entire family (immediate and wider)

ugh.

monotony.

I hate it.

I didn't take it the wrong way. I objected to you making a joke about being better off without a partner to someone who has JUST posted about struggling with the monotony of being alone. Engage your brain a bit maybe?

I know what you mean op, it wears you down knowing you have to do everything yourself or it won't get done. And then being too knackered to make any changes.

Might just pop over to Infertility and tell them they are all so lucky not to have a noisy baby keeping them awake at night. Maybe Bereavement peeps need to hear they are lucky to have one less Xmas pressie to buy. LOL! PMSL!

Kits

That's fine by me needaholidaynow let's get back to supporting the op.

Op there are a lot of us out there you aren't on your own in that respect!

Persistent long term Loneliness can cause depression, poor health, self neglect, and even suicide. It has a huge impact on many people in society. Yes very different to bereavement and infertility but still worth taking seriously.

Needaholiday when you're in a hole stop digging.

Good on you for apologising needaholidaynow.

Someone saying X is really hard and another person posting I wish I had X because of a facetious reason is a bit off.

What you posted doesn't even make any sense because one of the crap things about being a lone parent is you get less sleep as you have to do everything with no spare pair of hands.

OP, I think it is harder to get out of a routine in the winter, when the weather is warmer you can have a bbq tea outside or whatever.

Needsholiday if you are having Relationship issues, I suggest that you post on relationships.

So go start a thread about it need? Stop complaining about having a partner on threads about not having a partner.

Oh and for future reference, there's a difference between

I'm sorry for my inappropriate joke (and)
I'm sorry that you were offended by my joke and took it the wrong way

I can totally identify with this. I left an EA relationship soon after my DD was born and came out to, well, next to no friends. It can get incredibly lonely and monotonous. On bad days sometimes end up thinking 'is this it?' Which always leaves me feeling awful or guilty as though I am slating raising DD alone, but I'm not, IYSWIM?

I have been attending a local children's centre and although I don't really get to talk (too busy chasing DD around!) it nice to be around people.

Flowery man that 'I'm sorry you were offended' crap REALLY offends me.

I'm surrounded by people in my workplace and I have a few good friends that I meet for coffee. I have family support. I have two healthy children.I go out most days and do something. I read. I watch films. I listen to lots of music. I have a small garden to potter in. I drive. I managed to keep my home after the divorce and my ex pays some CM. I have a lot to be thankful for. I realise that.
But...

I'm lonely. I feel so lonely sometimes I ache with it. It consumes me at times. It's difficult to explain without sounding whiney or ungrateful. But I miss the company of another adult in the house. It's always just me. I miss the affection that comes with a loving secure relationship. I miss cuddling up to someone at night. I miss sharing my days highs n lows. I miss having a family holiday or a romantic weekend away. . I miss watching really good film and laughing with someone about it. I miss having a meal out with someone. I miss sex!!!

Susie me too but we have to really enjoy it while we have it. I'm making an effort to enjoy because one day I'll have a man and possibly miss my space!

I'd actually really love some close female friends. Like really close ones. To do each others hair, talk about stuff...

I've never had a really close female friend like this. And never had this girliness with my mum.

It's SO HARD to meet men. A couple I know that are eligible and attractive but hard to bump into them accidentally ;-) Too man-shy to do something obvious like try to contact them! :-)

Recently went back on Internet dating but it's such a drag- takes up so much time and then you never quite know what you're getting and in my case, are ALWAYS disappointed with the real product when you do meet them!!! Lol.

And no I'm not a lesbian. But it's true that some men would turn us all into lesbians! (The sexist, partriarchal, stupid, demanding ones!)

Ignoring the poster totally hijacking the thread...

Lewisfan yep, raising my hand too. I am lucky in that I get today (Saturday) off as DD is with STBXH but the rest of the week it is just me and DD and has been for 2 years. I find myself just sitting here on Saturdays, 'my day off' catching up on all the mudane things I haven't done in the week.

RE Loneliness, monotony...
Every day is the same, DD up, school run, DD back, food, homework, AOB, DD bed, then just sitting down wondering if I should phone a friend! (I live abroad so doubly lonely) I watch TV, have a bath or just go to bed! I have no real friends here and no family and I couldn't go out in the evening if I wanted to!

Bloody boring and I feel half the person I used to be with half the energy.

Actually, love the thread title, monotony makes you tired, precisely that. Much more than if you were burning the candle at both ends!

Raising my hand too!!!x

I read your post, and the bit about how much it aches and it made me cry a bit.
I totally sympathise I have no advice but wanted to offer a hand because I get it, more than you will know