He has already started court proceedings but did not turn up for mediation, didn't communicate with his solicitor and so the case has now been dropped.
He hasn't seen them in over a year and a half now. There has been no contact whatsoever, no birthday/Xmas cards, phone calls/Skype, nothing.
Yes, there was DV and I left when my youngest was 4 weeks old.
He has threatened to abduct the children before, and there is enough email and text message evidence to suggest that his sole purpose is to make my life as complicated as possible.
Cestlavie that is interesting as he does have those problems too. He has been living in his attic space for several years with no hot water or heating facilities, as the rest of his house in inhabitable (he is an extreme Hoarder. Although he says he would take the children to live at his friend's house who has fostered children before..his friend is a scout leader, and also runs a fetish shoewear company..just sayin').
Their father also claims some kind of incapacity benefit because of his alcoholism.
He doesn't want the children, the youngest has started calling my current partner of over a year 'Daddy' and they have both started voluntarily referring to their real father as 'Daddy (insert his name here)', sort of dissassociaiting themselves from him, although of course the youngest has no bond with him, having seen him only two or three times since we left when he was a newborn.
I have had enough of the stress from him amd need to move myself and the children on in life, I suppose is the reason. He clearly doesn't want them and I know of he ever had any contact he would do his utmost to poison my daughter's mind against me. I have never denied contact, I haven't pressed him for financial support (although it would be very helpful bit it won't happen, for other reasons).