Is this normal?

[ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath]

I have been a LP for just over 3 months now and I am getting increasingly tired. For example, I nap when ds does in the day (1 hour after lunch) and go to bed at about 10:30 and up at 7am but I feel like sleeping almost all the time. Ds and I co-sleep and he does tend to wake me quite a bit in the night as he fidgets and talks in his sleep but it's not too bad.

Ds is just 2 so I know it is a tough age but we go out almost every day to have long walks and lots of fresh air. I have lost quite a bit of weight since splitting from exOH and my appetite is still quite up and down. I just feel as if I'm failing as other LPs seem to handle things a lot more effectively and I only have one DC so should be able to do more IMO.

In the evenings, after doing a bit of a tidy up and some housework I have no energy left at all. I rarely watch television even let alone think about going out or exercising etc.

So, is this normal or am I doing something wrong?

Could you be anaemic?

I had thought about that, maybe it might be worth seeing the gp but I really hate going!

Certainly if you have heavy periods it's definately a real possibility, it's a good thing to get ruled out.

As other posters have said I would check out the possible medical reasons. BUT please don't estimate how the split has affected you emotionally and how exhausting that can be.
I am going through a difficult time at the moment and I need more sleep. How much time to you get to do things for you? you need to make sure you take time to relax and try and doing something social without DS, I know it is easier said than done and I became aware that I am not doing it myself enough at the moment. Get the sleep you need at the moment and either via the GP or as things settle emotionally your energy will come back.

Thank you, I will make an appt soon. I do have very heavy periods and low blood pressure too which can make me pass out and I think that's related to them too.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing better, it's so hard to do things for you isn't it? The one day a week that ds' dad looks after him I use to get all washing done, beds stripped and DIY etc. I had my haircut a little while ago and realised it was the first time I had been forced to sit down and relax in I don't know how long. I almost fell asleep whilst having my hair washed

Someone gave me some really good advice when my DS was younger. Sleep when you can. It may be boring but try and go to bed early you will function better in the day. I should be in bed now I am being naughty again as I've let myself get run down. We need to look after ourselves as boring as that is sometimes. Take care.

I find it really hard to sleep atm but sometimes I just crash out with ds at his bedtime and it re-charges me for a few days. The neighbours do comment if the lights are left on though!

Firstly just because every one appears to be surfing along as a lp doesn't actually mean they are so stop comparing yourself.

There can be many reasons for excess tiredness including sleeping too much ( honestly!)
From what you've described I don't think that's the case though.

Things to think about are

quality of sleep ( cosleeping can go either way)

Relaxing before you sleep, ie winding down time before getting into bed. Not just housework then crash.

Caffeine or sugar close to bed time.

Light in bedroom. Sleeping with lights on will affect you quality of sleep.

But do explore medical reasons to. There is a whole range of medical and dietary possibilities don't just suffer it if you can fix it with something as simple as iron supplements ffs

Good points to think about and good advice. Have made appt with gp so am off there in a bit then to collect ds from my DM (thank god for family as there's no way I can take him to the surgery without a meltdown). I need to talk about my piles, blood pressure and eczema too, should be a great visit

I did it and braved the gp surgery. Got blood test and ECG lined up over the next 2 weeks and ointments galore. Now off to bed!