Single dad first Xmas without my son! Any advice please!

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Hi it's my first time on here I'm a new single dad with a devious ex and she has done everything to make sure I Can't see my son, I'm in court at the moment to get access but it was denied as she said I was dangerous despite never touching a hair on my sons head and I have no aggressive streak! I'm struggling to cope with Christmas and how to get to grips with just not seeing my son, I have to wait til march for a court case again to look at whether I can get access!! Any advice on first Christmas without my son and how to cope with this situation please help!!

Is this for real? Or a wind uup?

I was just being a supportive girlfriend not justforclassic!! Thought as I have had some great advice here before I would try for him and from all the post there are only a handful of positive responses thank u so much to those of u that have helped really appreciate it!!!

I've been quite surprised with the amount of negativity towards a father having a hard time, think there are a lot of scourned woman on here and I'm one included in that but would just like to see a site where whoever is struggling because we have been through tough times we could offer advice!

The charges of rape have been dropped as the poster has already explained because he didn't do it. He had evidence proving he didn't do it according to the poster, which is all we have to go on. If we could not give advice on the site without having both sides of every story, it would be a rather pointless website.

I don't think it's trolling to post on behalf of your other half, who she claims was aware of her posting.

I will recommend FNF again OP. Get your partner to see if they run any groups nearby.

Is this the man bashing feminist section or the lone parent section ?

OP ChocHobNob is right. FNF is probably a good alternative to here, although it's worth posting in Legal also. . Getting good advice as a man here is a bit hit and miss.

Personally I've had fantastic advice overall, but you do a get an element of ' all men are rapists / bastards / abusive' school of thought here.

MrGingle Please link to two examples of 'all men are rapists'.

She won't be able to JS, because she made it up.

Like the handmaidens always do.

Pah

A bit like saying FNF used to advocate men slapping their partners around.

I didn't make that up Ionly, I remember it.

However I accept that I can't prove it and as it was a long time ago and they were the most well known father's rights group at the time, I might well be mixing them up with another less memorable group. At the time the media were interviewing all sorts of groups some of which went on to become more mainstream like FNF and some of which went on to mad internet MRA'dom, so it's quite possible I mixed them up.

However if you want to find feminists on here saying all men are bastards, there has been a feminist section for only about two years and you can trawl through and see if you can find anyone self-identifying as a feminist, who says that all men are rapists. I doubt if anyone ever ahs and if anyone ever did, s/he'd be met with scepticism by other feminists.

*has your partner tried

www.dadtalk.co.uk

Goto the forums and have a look on legal eagle. Tbh on here you won't get much sympathy being male. Imo better support is there as there aren't as many hormones flying around*

In reply to rathbone... Are you serious? You've only got to look at threads in here:
My bastard ex
My abusive violent ex was a twat
My ex is a bastard

The words appear in many threads and indeed are used in many thread titles. Feel free to take a look:
Recent ones include,
Make up for ex's stupidity
How do all these men sleep at night
What these asswipes put their kids through

Really? Very supportive of guys who post on here?

Raikin, I would agree.

I wonder why there is such a high proportion of threads stating at their ex is one of the bad ones?

Perhaps it is because women who have 'good' ex's as far as their involvement with DC's care/maintenance etc. Don't feel the need to post on here for support or advise?

I have mooches around this site on and off for a while, principally for support on teen issues, but hadn't been on this section until I became a lone parent, and only then when I was after advice about something I hadn't dealt with before, I don't have any friends in similar situations, so I came here....

Wonder what the response would be if I had come along and posted 'I have just split with my partner, everything is working well, the children are adjusting well, every one is much happier, we are agreeing on compromises to every issue that arrises......' I recon posts like these are few and far between

As for OP, posting on someone else's behalf without stating that in the first instance doesn't seem the done thing. I hope that your new partner is what he says he is for your sake, and for his sons. He can always celebrate Christmas when he does get to see him, better late than never, I hope it is all resolved in the best way for DC possible.

I feel for the Dad facing his 1st Xmas alone but you must stay strong, easy said than done I know. Your world is upside down now and maybe sometimes you cant breathe.. but you must hang in there, you must for your son!.. My story is not a nice one, nor will it have a happy ending.The lawyers are still waiting for the paperwork to come back from the court. I'm not saying my story is better than the next man far from it each holds its own pain... but people my side that know the truth, say that I should really put this down on paper. Does anyone know a person who could help me in this matter who's in the game or knows someone? I really dont know where to start, dont say internet pls.. a ghost/script wirter or something? just someone who could yes or no. I'm sorry to come on this thread just asking about me but I really would appreciate some help. This family law system is bent and out of date and I want to prove it.

Riakin you are talking about something completely different.

"my bastard ex" is not the same as "all men are bastards".

Men are not interchangeable. Just because someone may consider the man she is talking about at this particular moment, to be a deadbeat or a disgrace, er, that doesn't mean she's talking about all the men in the world. She's just talking about one.

Froggies it's like anything isn't it - people post because they've got a problem.

If you believed the relationships threads, you'd think everyone on Mumsnet was married to horrible abusers. But that's because people with nice husbands don't have problems that are annoying enough to need to post about.