hard work when they're here,lonely when they're not

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my boys are away,gone with their dad for a week,back tomorrow evening,it's been a good week in all but i find i'm lonely,it's either manic when they're here and i've not got time for myself at all or they're gone and the days are long and i find i'm a bit lonely

Don't get me wrong,i will get used to this i'm sure,probably doesn't help that it's one of my son's birthdays today so i'm remembering when he was born and stuff,emotions all over the place!!

Anyone else feel like this?

I sorta see where you're coming from. I've only ever left my lo once (for longer than an hour or so) and was really excited about it at the time but then spent the whole day shopping for him! I felt a bit lost I think.

I bet it's hard being away from them on their birthdays especially!! No wonder you're feeling emotional!

I feel exactly the same, mine went yesterday for a week and I make myself manically busy all week, but still miss him like crazy! I never seem able to sleep at night knowing that his bedroom is empty.

Yes I can identify with you. My 9yr old was in Canada with his dad and granma for 2 weeks and although his 2 wee brothers stayed at home with me, I just felt down the whole time. I was so glad when he came home but his dad an granma came too and have rented a selfcatering cottage near me so all 3 boys have gone overnight tonight and will be there for most of the week. I have been weepy all day. Lately i have been v overwhelmed and exhausted so should appreciate the rest but i feel like i'm in no man's land. It was my 9yr old's birthday on the 29 as well. I had planned to do lots of trekking but have spent the day at home. Its tricky isn't it? Maybe it will get easier over time.

I did lots of remembering the day he was born on Fri 29 as well and got v emotional. Strangely i think i kind of had this hunch that day 9 yrs ago that i'd be better off alone even though i was completely overjoyed at my healthy 1st baby. Anyway we stayed together for a year and then i left but my x talked me into taking him back which i did only to discover 3 ds later that he just could not be trusted. So i often feel that my sons just deserved so much more and when i remember bringing them home as newborns in their wee blankets hoping everything would work out i just get so sad.

Maybee-((hugs))

Mine are home,my flat is loud and chaotic again!! most probably will be stressed out and exhausted again soon!! it's one extreme to the other here!!