Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

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hurray

Betty - I know Hes so horny lovely.

oh mont not nice
lol @ rod tho, some of his early stuff is great,bet it'd be a great gig,would love to,such an artist & performer
but i still rate kelly's version over his!

ASBM - I know. It's crap and not looking great, the treatment, it's hard on her, and not really working well.

Loved that docu with Rod and Kelly :)

It's Amy Winehouse now lol :)

Docu? lol

I missed the post about your friend monty :( must be very hard

Have just finished the ironing and as it looks like the fighting has stopped I thought I might just stick my head in

Eve, good to see someone is holding the side up and has actually managed a date!!

Have been chatting to GW, he is coming up to stay over easter as my boys are away. It occured to me that I had now lost count of the number of dates we have been on. Not sure what that makes us, have not got this far for such a long time, so have no idea how all this relationship stuff is supposed to work anymore.

Not that I am bothered. I am just HAPPY

Monty, sorry about your friend. Having had a lot of expereience with cancer before xmas its really tough.

As I was walking the dogs this morning I wished my mum was still about as she was always saying she hoped I would meet someone nice. Now I have, she would have been so pleased, but she isnt here to tell. Hopefully she is up there smiling somewhere

Hi Elasta - two more happy people on the thread.

Betty - it's not hard for me, not as hard as it must be for her and her 4 dcs and gorgeous loving dh and extended family. Thanks for your sympathy, she looks really ill ffs. She's up and about which is good obv. Don't know what the prognosis is atm but St Christopher's Hospice is helping which suggests to me that it's not great.

Life eh.

long lost my amy w as dd covets them,the mind of a tween bogglies me tbh
elasta no white flag needed imho tis one poster getting silly,good to hear all going well with GW
have you broached the subject with your boys yet?

Elasta, sorry xpost.

I was thinking you might have some helpful input, knowing what you went through with your dm. It's breast cancer, she's only 45.

Your dm is up there and feeling happy for you. I'm RC and believe it, some don't.

Did you have any dealings with St Christopher's? Does it mean it's near the end?

Sorry peoples for going off thread so to speak, but in the old days we did talk about other stuff and supported each other through all sorts, without a bunfight.

xpost ofh mont no

this isn't being arsed off and self indulgent mont
thinking about your df and her dh and dcs

ASBM - I know. . I don't know the prognosis, I didn't get to speak to her dh in private but there was a very resigned air to him. We buried a mutual friend this week and her dh was at the funeral although I didn't see him the funeral was so huge, 3/400 people. df wasn't there, she said she didn't want people to feel awkward. I missed her there, and thought about her which why I was determined to see her this weekend.

Friends and family and loved ones are so important.

Sorry for bringing the thread down.

Celtic is still wonderful

I haven't caught up yet but I will do.

I have news, I have spent the last 2 nights having extremely heated conversations (in a good way) with my Irish (we can think of a new nickname at a later date) and he is coming over this week! Can't wait it is going to be fun

Monty - I am so sorry about your friend. Woohoo for Celtic goodness though

Elasta - Woohoo for it being a "relationship" iyswim :o

Tits - Yay for Irish2

Eve - Lol @ getting slaughtered with him sober. I end up doing stuff like that .

Sorry for those I have missed - it has been hard to pick out with the squabbles.

Ok, update here (the Carrot situ is back to being ignored whilst I move on)

Went out on Sat night with mates, met up with Giger a bit later on. He met my mates and step sister (that was weird - she happened to bump into us out). Get on well, he makes me laugh. I hit him at one point (half joking - was meant to be playful slap but wrong angle and more force than planned due to alcohol) and cut his lip on his tooth . Fireworks very much still there, as is my inner slut. Main event was a smidge disappointing but think I may have built it up in my head with the rarghness between us.

But (always a but) - he has children that he doesn't see. That really bothers me. He has reasons, but there seems to have been v little fight put in iyswim. Plus, I am still not attracted to his face, regardless of the spark. He also doesn't drive and lives far enough away for that to be irritating (a fine distance if both driving iyswim).

Then we have Smurf.

Damn damn Smurf. He has apologised for twuntish behaviour. Has explained (which I am not going into on here). Part of me thinks he hurt me and confused me, so I should stay far away, but the other part remembers that I was starting to develop feelings for the first time since Carrot, and my heart fizzes when he texts me. I told him he has major making up to do if he wants me to even consider anything happening, and he was classic him - serious but with one liners that were related to things between us.

I have no clue what to do. I can't juggle them, it isn't in me to have two on the go at the same time. I do like Giger a lot, but the children thing really bothers me as does the transport. Smurf has the potential to hurt me, but there was something there.

I dunno. I might have a drink with Smurf in the week and talk the him stuff out. If it is happening with him then I want something proper. I am happy for fairly casual with Giger but less so with Smurf. (Obv won't put it like that, but will make it clear that I want someone rather than a body)

Right. I am stopping over thinking. Seeing how Giger plays out for a bit. Smurf can stew.

Oh and to whoever asked - Giger fizzling out mainly because i can see it being all pretty colours but no lasting effect.

Monty, Hospice doesnt always mean near the end as they often get involved in terms of pain managment etc as they are experts in this. But it does mean the palliative care team are involved so prognosis probably not that great .

We didnt use the hospice for my mum as we had our own nursing team that I employed in the home. They were wonderful, and as deaths go, my mothers was as good as it could be. She was at home where she wanted to be, not in pain and with all her children.

Dying is a really difficult subject, but I do hope family are talking to your friend about if if that is what she wants. We talked openly with mum about her dying and about how much we all loved her and it made a huge difference to us all not to leave things unsaid at the end.

To answer the question ASBM. Boys have met GW and seemed to like him.

He has told his ex about us, but he hasnt told his kids yet as she didnt want him to. Given they are still sharing a house he doesnt want to rock the boat too much, although his kids are quite a lot older, one is at university, so he doesnt think it will be much of a surprise.

I expect his ex needs some time to get her head round it. Even though they have been seperated for over a year, they are still under the same roof and it probably wasnt what she was expecting to happen

monty am so sorry about your friend (((((un-mn hugs)))))

elasta - glad things are going well for you

fwiw i was thinking fo leaving thread too can we please stop fighting now???
this thread has been a great support to me especially in the early days with vimes (thank you aunty lou and others i do remember your help and good common sense!) and we had a lovely time last night

(and i've finally fiund out how to search for my place marking onthis thread to! took me long enough )

oops and morning to everyone as well

i hope everyone can stop fighting. to be honest its really sad. well, i feel sad about it.
I liked coming on here and nattering to everyone and i feel like i cant do that now. I still dont quite get why i was so ganged up on.. but maybe thats half the problem.

think it should lie now. wouldn't want to see anyone leave and people should post about what they like. :)

monty, my mum diedin st christophers. they are wonderful. I'm sure your friend will get the best care possible. how dreadfully sad. :(

thinking of withdrawing from the whole dating thing. can't be bothered. too sad to contemplate it at the moment and a long way from pulling my socks up and getting back down to business.

Elasta - thank you. That's what I was thinking really. I'm sorry if I brought painful memories back.

Snape I'm sorry to hear about your mum.

Thanks everyone for your sympathy.

Flame - was that carrot that you accidentally hit? Have you fallen out now?

Saw Celtic at work today. Aaah. Its hard having to keep my hands off him though