I have received a letter today from the tax credits. I have 3 daughters and seperated from there dad nearly 3 years ago. I claim as a single parent. For the past 18 months everything has settled down and we now have a brother/sister sort of relationship. He lives next to me and quite often pops in to see the kids when he hasnt got them but never stays here. He did a couple of weeks ago when i went to hospital for an operation with youngest as i had no one to look after older ones.
I have recieved a letter today from HM Revenues and it says a couple would usually but not always live together or share responsibility for looking after dependant children and act as a coouple. We go on holiday once a year with the kids (caravan park). I dont drive so he is the only way of me getting there.
We have got totally seperate lives and are only on good terms as we have 3 kids to bring up. If we had no kids we would probably never had clapped eyes on each other again.
I know most ex's dont get along but we have always made an effort to for the kids and i cant see anything wrong with him calling into my house as a friend which he now is. I also have keys for his flat and walk his dog if he cant get home.
I am now really worried. Is this a standard letter as i have never had one before. Has anyone else got one?.