What do you provide when your DC go to the other parents?

[CherylAnnTweedy]

I want xp to provide clothes for when the boys go to his. I have in the past asked him to do this, even to the point of buying some clothes for him to keep at his but they were just returned with him saying he didn't have space to keep them (it was just 2 pairs of pyjamas). He makes it seem I am making totally unreasonable demands of him.

The boys come back stinking from the huge amount that he and his mates smoke. So much so that it takes at least 3 washes (long ones with a pre-wash) to get rid of the stench.

I'm fed up with it and wanted to know if it is unreasonable to expect an ex to provide something for the children. Is it normal to have to provide everything for the children when they go?

blackeyedsusan I've thought on many occasion about phoning Crimestoppers, but I've never thought they'd do much with it as I can provide very little info

But surely it's worth a try... I put off reporting Ex's gf (OW) when she was harassing me non stop. But it worked - the first time she just got a call from the police which she treated as a joke - the 2nd time they went round and warned her if she did it again she would be arrested. So it does work. You wouldn't need to give your name. I would do it.

aaargh - mean to put the copied part in bold!

My DS spends two weekends a month at his dads. when he first started going I used to give him a bag with clean clothes etc but he didn;t use them and didn't even bother saying! so I kept doing it for ages like an idiot, until I eventually cottoned on. As soon as my DS gets to his dads house he changes him out of 'my' clothes and into stuff he has for him. My DS is lucky that he has plenty of stuff at his dads but what pisses me off sometimes is when his dad brings him home with new shoes or something and claims there was something wrong with the stuff I sent him away in! Just him trying to score points and put me down.