Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

Elasta, thinking of you (((((((())))))))

Flame good luck with the date

Hi to everyone else

Am knackered, up to Leeds and back yesterday followed by team dinner last night, then early start again this morn for team meeting......fortunately not hungover today unlike others around the table who stayed over and were drinking shorts in hotel bar until 2am, after copious wine at dinner

Going home for a couple of hours with the dds then pjs and bed for me, thjank goodness am working from home tomorrow

Lol @ the ones who carried on drinking. Tis madness when people do that

Hope it goes well Flame.

Enjoy your date tonight Flame :)

Elasta - thank you. Thinking of you and your mum.

mily - (!) at your colleagues. I can no longer do drinking (well 1 or 2 ok) if I have to be up the next day for any reason, throws me right out of sync.

Things are looking up. I now have a new fridge freezer (tahnks for lending me the money next) and central heating working again (phew).

DS currently refusing to eat his tea - in fairness it is a bit crap as cobbled together from stuff in the cupboard and not especially nice but needs must.

On the man front - heard back from nice bloke I went out with on Fri. He is very keen (too keen). Not looking forward to the inevitable it's-not-you-its-me chat. Didn't have the strength for it today :(

Don't you like him Janos? The ones I like never like me and vice versa.

I don't actively dislike him eve but just really don't have that spark.

Plus there were some other issues which I won't bring up on here out of respect for his privacy. I know he's not likely to read it but ykwim.

It's stuff that's pretty much of a dealbreaker for me.

dealbreakers cannot be overlooked imo, or else it would start building up and you would become resentful

Suddenly felt really ill and came home. nice enough guy. my heart isn't in it though regardless of feeling ill :( have hidden my profile again. Gonna be single for a bit. rebound rebound isn't going to work. Carrot really was a shit initial rebound bloke. still at least i am ok again for a little while on the sex front. . Maybe the right one will fall in my lap.

No point in going into anything half hearted, just doesn't work. Hope you feel better soon Flame.

I'm having a couple of days off this week so only have to work tomorrow, yipee. Only got plans to go Christmas Shopping, been chatting to LG on fb, he wants to talk but doesn't seem to want to meet up and he is very close. It's OK with me, I'm off men too.

Agree re dealbreakers, they always come back to bite you if you try not to mind.

Sorry to hear that flame, perhaps your head just isn't in the right place right now.

eve, you're v organised with your Christmas shopping, hope you can find some good deals.

Hi mily, flf and everyone else.

Not much going on here, though lots of texts and a nice chat this evening with cyclist. We're planning to meet on Thursday if he doesn't end up working late again. He said I should feel free to make other plans if I want to, but I don't...I'm not giving up that easily! We have next Weds to look forward to, which will be date no. 2 or 3 depending on what happens. Maybe he'll turn out to be the first guy I actually reach date no 4 with!

(And I can overlook the fact that 20 years of barking instructions at soldiers has given him a voice that sounds a bit like he has a sore throat...that's not a dealbreaker!)

Agree that dealbreakers are there for a reason and shouldn't be ignored. My main one would be being active in military. I just couldn't do it.

Tis a shame about Earl. He was easy to talk to, the baby thing was ok, but my head really is all over the place. I might do another drink one night if he doesn't think i ran away. I suddenly started spinning and feeling really sick.

Hi All, Had another date with radioman last night, still laughing over our conversation. although I did feel at one stage that I was being 'interviewed' and we asked each other a lot of rahter personal questions

Finished off the evening with him showing me his hairy chest in the hight street, he is seriously fit. Going out again this weekend, will see how I feel on date 3

high street

place marking again

(((((((((((flame))))))))))

elasta - ((((())))) i know how you feel sweetheart xx
yay for dates with radio man

as for her, hm,mph
x is now refusing to pay csa again. he said that becasue he self-employed they can't assess him so cue on sunday, when me and vimes went to pick up dd, x tried to maek me sign for the maintenance of £160 (a figure he's incidentally picked outthe air) so thta he as it for his records wtf???? he was only going to try and claim the maintenace back throught he tax office as a bsuiness expense!

Elasta, woohoo for good 2nd date and lol at getting hairy chest out (his that is....)

Flame, (((((((((()))))))))))) re feeling rough and head all over the place, a bit of singledom and time for yourself sounds like a good plan

Janos, no spark re a dealbreaker is definitely trying to tell you something - just not worth the effort imo

Lilac, fingers X re cyclist

I am getting wound up about the weekend - DDs off to XH's place for the first time, sleepover Sat night. I know it will be fine and is vg development for all concerned but can't help feeling it will be odd. Have had 2 nights away from DD2 this last 12 months.........no reason at all why they won't be just fine there but heart ache at thought of not tucking them in and kissing them goodnight

On the plus side, TLM and I planning to go in to town later on Sat (got to drop DDs off in Richmond for 1.30 that day then back here) and be Christmassy and chilled, which I am really looking fwd to. Then a cathartic session on Sunday of clearing stuff out of the house ready for moving on, have freecycled some of XH stuff these last few days but there is a load to go to charity. Then old units can come out fo garage/utility and I can get that whole bit sorted, is complete tip atm. Plus, no kids means we can head off on bikes and go for run in the woods and/or walk out with the dog a good long way broken up by pub lunch - DD2 too little for that kind of thing.

are you ready? My usual comment coming....must go and do some work!

wow, it's been quiet today

Aurora, just read back and saw the post before mine re your X and maintenance - he sounds like a piece of work, am really at the plan to claim back as business expense (I refer you to my previous post some days ago re oxygen thieves)

Am getting excited about New Year. DDs to XH's so TLM and I are going into town for a couple of cheap nights at the RAF club, so now I am excitedly browsing things in the area to see if we can get a live gig somewhere central, maybe with dinner - just the sort of thing I would love to do but never would normally

Thank yuou for the hugs. Been talking to a mate in the same situation as me today - we're gonna start having girly nights out :)

Have forgotten most things apart from exes being knobs over maintenance and the radio man's chest...

Aurora, that's just the sort of shite mine would pull re maintenance...still at least yours is offering you something. Mine probably thinks I don't notice he hasn't paid the miserly sum he offers every month for the last two months (meantime going to a wedding in Italy, stag weekend abroad etc). Grraaarrggh etc.

mily - know exactly how you feel about the nights away. I arrange things to do to take my mind off it etc.

Elasta - sounds like your date went wellll.....

Flame, hope you feel ok, that sounds awful.

As for the dealbreakers they are definitely of the type that cannot be ignored.

Oh, and guess what? After going all chasey chasey PMM has disappeared into the ether. Funny that, eh?

Evening ladies - hope you're all well - and yay, Elasta, at second date - though not too sure about hairy chest as personally find extreme hairiness a dealbreaker but each to her own!

I'm hoping to see Bluebeard on Sat after having to cancel Monday and then Thursday after realising my mother (aka the babysitter) had forgotten to tell me she was out.

Also been exchanging messages with a guy off OKC who seems quite interesting and attractive but tad worried that some of his interests are a bit on the SM/rubberwear side for me - have enough trouble trying to have a sex life without trying to include any kinky stuff!

Also been chatting to someone of PoF but think he's a bit of a tosser to be honest so don't think I'll bother anymore (nd_letter for anyone who fancies taking a butchers).

And have just had a nice message from a 40-year-old from Chesham who apologised for the fact that he's still officially married and offered to show me a solicitor's letter to prove he and his x are separated! (Married men are one of my dealbreakers ...)

Hopefully won't take me four years to get to meet any of them but nothing surprises me anymore!

Nowt to report except I am officially off men, LG wants to meet me on Friday, might but got Christmas shopping to think about.

Still reeling about Mr L&L, have deleted his no. from my phone.

DD got the metal off her teeth today, yah, they look great.

Morning all - had odd convo with Bluebeard last night which has led me to believe my initial reaction back in summer was probably the right one! Oh well, date is obviously off and I think I'm joining you Eve in being off men! Just think they are all a tad odd/into playing mind games/after one thing and I'm not in a good place for any of that at the moment.

Think I may start breeding small dogs instead ... or take up knitting unless anyone else can think of any good ways of passing time?

morning all, i have nothing to add and am placemarking really

ds1 is 12 on saturday so he is non stop chatting about that

I wanna know what he said now!

Yay for metal being off.

So... who is up for a sofa opposite the marital one where we drink martinis and don't have boys farting near us?