Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

[ninah]

part 27? good god

Oh God, and if you think I settled for the first guy to come along, trust me I didn't.

Like the guy who I told I was a single mother to on our first date and looked so shocked his food slid off his fork. He was from the home counties. I am glaswegian. He proposed sex at the end of the evening which I refused. I think he was even more shocked by that. Posh tory twat.

Or the guy who tried to arse me about, with me looking on going "Seriously? Do you honestly think I care?"

Or the guy who told me his deepest, darkest sexual fantasies, involving his prostate.

Or the guy who got his female friend to ask me out, whilst I was at work, and then was insulted when I never went out with him.

Yes ladies, welcome to dating, but not as you know it.

ffs now neither earl nor carrot are replying.

Hi Harbour - and you're probably on the right thread ....

Welcome harbour :)

Kiwi sent me a text earlier saying "How you doing? Stuck at home?" I replied "Not stuck at all, the girls are here and we're having a lot of fun." Arse. If he was a parent he'd know that spending the evening with your kids, especially with one at boarding school all week, is the best part of the weekend.

In fact the highlight of the evening was when I grilled some slices of garlic bread and managed to set fire to them . 13yo DD then partitioned off the kitchen end of the kitchen diner with parcel tape and banned me from entering DD2 says the ban has to be lifted by Monday AM because there's no way she's getting her own breakfast!

flame, turn your phone off and do something useful instead!

lmao my phone is meant to be giving me someone something to do!

Love the not getting her own breakfast

Earl replied first thing this morning and apologised that work got busy, and Carrot replied not long after my whinging.

Alas, the benefits part of that friendship is most likely over :( He's always struggled with the whole concept, and I think me chucking him out last night tipped him over :( I had to though, regardless of children, as the sex I can keep separate, but the waking up next to him is what messes me up. I have no idea what that means for our friendship though tbh. Probably going to have to make myself give him up completely.

Urgh. Ok. I will be needing some hugs tonight. Its all gotta go. I know you have been saying that for weeks, but I have been going gradually . Last week it was the 50/50 thing that went, now I just need to manage the last bit. I hate the idea of not talking to him every day :(

flame, you'll cope...you'll be giving yourself the opportunity to find a guy who deserves you and adores you and ticks all the important boxes.

Just have to do this

because I can!

This has been the longest day in the history of the world.

Going to have to blurt it out when he arrives because if I wait til later in the evening I will never do it.

Whats for dinner? Making a keema curry here

Big two had pasta bake, me n Strawb had baked potato and chilli con carne.

Is it too early for wine?

What's Keema Curry Lou?

We are having chicken fillets, stuffing, mash, cabbage medley and gravy. DD is moaning she isn't hungry. I have a bottle of white wine, no work tomorrow, I kept off the booze last night and have walked up a hill so deserve it.

Usual bunch of bores sending messages on POF, why is it when you have ignored someone about 5 times they still send the same sort of dull message as if it's the first time they have messaged you. God it's so depressing. Not that I am going to be active on there for a while but still, feel like deleting my profile.

I was talking to a couple of ok ones last night, but I just can't be arsed today. I seem to have informed Earl that he is cooking me a meal at some point. :o

I've been added to this guy's favourites, how lucky am I...

here

YUK !!!! Enough to make you want to join a convent. xxx

ew ew ew ew ew

Crap crap crap. Resolve is wavering. I was fine and strong then he bloody text me (nothing exciting) and now I don't wanna give him up.

Maybe I can keep playing with him for another week til I meet Earl?

its minced beef with coriander, cumin , cinnamon, garlic, turmeric, cardamons, chili, aniseed and a few other things, with potatoes and onions and peas

and i did it with coconut rice

Right big announcement roll up!! I lost my resolve this morning and sent a message to Mr l&l (love and leave). Asked something about his week working away and very politely said I found it wrong to not have any communication after ...

Got a message back just now, quite matter of fact but saying will speak soon blah blah. I was shaking opening the email, what an effect he seemed to have on me. Anyway feel slightly better.

Got the baby for an hour, she is into everything and can sense a nappy change due.

Ok. In the spirit of sanity - Have text Earl telling him I am free on Weds evening if he can do that for a drink :) He seems like a nice guy. He sends lots of good texts. He makes me smile.

Ok, he has a pregnant ex girlfriend - so that may be a small issue. I am finding out the details when I see him. But having had the pregnancy scare this month, I know how easily it can happen so I am trying to not judge. Plus he is working 2 jobs to raise money for said child.

Did it sounds a genuine speak soon or a brush off? Did he explain lack of contact?

No explanation, probably a brush off but he didn't have to say that . Flame you need to find out more about this baby on the way, doesn't sound like it will be fun getting to know someone in that situation.

Sorry Possibly shouldn't have said what was thinking on that...

Yup, will do. As it stands at the moment he is a laugh. It will be a lot easier finding out the situation in person than in emails etc which is why we have left the details. He did tell me in his second message, so it hasn't been hidden.