Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

hehe - how funny - just as we're discussing men that would prefer not to have children already on the scene.

Emailed a lovely sounding bloke on OkC last night - he's just replied - very nice, polite email, but saying he doesn't feel his life is stable enough for anything with kids in the picture (and a sorry afterwards).

I live ny life in song... macy gray "i try" is the song of the moment

FLF, hope that's the last you hear from him, weird though about him cropping up.

I need to go to bed, forgot to say I have a lunch time date tomorrow, yikes, he is someone who is working in my area, that I was in contact with a couple of months ago. Just got a message off him and made a snap decision to go for a meetup. Gawd I hope he is normal. I'm nipping out of work for it. He says he isn't looking for anything serious which I'm not either, cannot be bothered to look into the future.

FFS FLF, what a creep. You could always do what I did and block him?

Good luck for tomorrow!

what's his normal text turnaround?

Oooh good luck eve!

WW - he did say he was not much into mobile phones so maybe he just doesn't check it much.

Guess I'll find out soon enough though.

Macy Gray, I try! Have been there once or twice.

Janos, perhaps he just cannot commit to a day or time so is just keeping in touch until he can.

Must go to bed myself, night.

eve - that bloke sounds like a nasty piece of work, yuck.

Hope you enjoy your lunch date tomorrow.

And, I will stop overthinking and get to bed.

Night all :)

just looking in will try to scroll thru all the posts properly
gawd it's getting soo long now...
flame not being harsh here tho doubtless i prob. sound, but reading between the lines carrot=headfuck
tis your call etc
but for yourself and your dcs have some self respect...he's taking the p big big time
he's not worthy of you,no decent bloke would cause so much anxst

Hi ASBM :)

Flame - I wouldn't have a Carrot around me. Maybe as a friend but not a fwb, he hasn't been upfront from the off imo. He got what he wanted tho. Soz :( I'm not really getting what you're getting from it. If its sex I'd go for someone more honest. I know he eventually told you what he wanted, but I'm not convinced its what you want.

As suggested, bin him. That's me, straight talking.

monty as ever says it how it is
however you wish to dress it up it's going nowhere
if a bloke is really interested nothing stands in his way

yep agree bin him - if you want a fwb - there's plenty more blokes out there who'll do that and be upfront about what they want from the off

I know you don't want anything serious but you're seriously selling yourself short here

i hear what you're saying but i don't buy the love shall overcome all thing. Maybe I am just cynical.

I have been just as un honest as him if we're looking at it like that tbh. I started out seeing him still desperately in love with XH which I obviously denied. I would have dropped him like a stone at one word from XH. I said all along that I wanted casual, that I thought he was great but there were never going to be any proper feelings. It was mostly true but when it changed I stuck to my story.

I know it is all stupid. He isn't a forever man as it just can't work, but as a right now man he makes me smile. It may not seem that on here but that is because I tend to only whinge on here

eh - who said the love shall overcome thing?

Aren't we all telling you to drop him

Seriously - any type or relationship (especially so long with short term ones) that is giving you angst isn't worth it. They're supposed to be FUN (At all times in the early days = and actually the same applies to long term relationship as well, if you've got whinging to do early on move on)

flame tbh it's getting painful to read
you sound so tormented with it all

kdk - my ds2 has just stopped having packed lunches it's fantastic no need to worry about what to pack anymore.

FWIW he used to have a sandwich or bought pasta salad, fruit,yoghurt, drink and a rotating treat such as strings, one jaffa cake, a biscuit, cheese dippers. But no crisps as he is a bit overweight.

this week goes from bad to worse.

my team at work have turned against me and are all now giving me the silent treatment all because they feel their workload is higher than others in the office (it is, but they are more efficient/capable than others, plus I give them lots of help/guidance which enables them to work faster, which others here dont get from their managers)

have to sit here listening to them moaning about how unfair life is. I could cry, and not just about WM which is still upsetting me even though neither work idiots nor WM are worth my tears :(

Will try and be happier by Friday. I have the day off so at least wont be upset over work....

sorry to hear that Sponge sounds awful - I bet you are a good manager.

Sponge (((((((((()))))))))). My lot go through phases of being right moaners about that kind of thing - what Sin said, bet you are great, they'll get a shock if they ever work for someone else

Sponge - lol you sound like my boss. She piles it on all the time, we're understaffed compared to other sections and boy do we winge . It's what work is about isn't it? No, seriously, our boss is lovely too and I'm very fond of my line manager, she has me wrapped around her little finger lol. I don't really know what the answer is, I'm sure you show your appreciation and as you'll know 'thank you' always means a hell of a lot. Oh, and she buys us wine and chocolate regularly . I know you've treated yours recently and you sound lovely, they'll get over it??

Good luck with the interview outcome by the way :)

Wing - I suppose you've said from the outset that no matter what we say on here you would continue to see him, so on that note I rest my Gucci luggage.

Ma - glad you're over the aggro. You don't need it. Why do ex's want to cause as much stress as poss when you're trying to raise their dc's??

winge whinge obv

well, the atmosphere is a bit better. didnt get the job but from what was said it was a close thing. the person who was successful is already doing the job in another office so has more relevant experience than me. Was told I performed well and that I have an engaging personality which was nice :)

Team are ok now, they've calmed down and when I told them I hadnt got the job they said they would miss me - I think they were sincere!

heard today from our mutual friend that WM's been diagnosed with nerve problems in his arms :( (this is in addition to the other problems he has for which he's already been referred for surgery). feel v sad for him even in spite of recent events.

:o Monty

In return for ignoring all advice I promise to only talk about New nutters . I do give ManA another shot don't i? He was v different in emails so i think nerves may have been part of it.

Work sounds hellish sponge :(