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How was your day today? Come share.

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 18:46

Evening. I lurk more than I post, but I was thinking that one of the crappy things about being an lp is that there is no-one to ask how your day went each evening (though appreciate some partners might not have asked either!).

So I thought I would start this thread as a place to share the ups and downs of our days. I'll start.

I had a great day with ds (3.4), he was being really helpful and co-operative. I took him swimming then to the supermarket. He had a lunchtime nap and I did a massive cooking session for the freezer and to help out a friend with a new baby. Played a few games with ds in the afternoon. Fairly mundane but no tantrums (him) or shouty impatience (me) so definitely a good one.

How was your day?

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FreakoidOrganisoid · 13/09/2010 18:49

Glad your day went well.

I was quite productive his morning but ground to a halt this afternoon. My friend told me one of the dads was checking out my bum at school pick up

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 18:55

ooooh! hot single dad? or a pervy married dad?

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FreakoidOrganisoid · 13/09/2010 18:57

lol no idea, I didn't see Hot single dad would be good...

brightwell · 13/09/2010 19:07

Busy day at work for me. I'm getting tough with dc, especially ds....I need him to be more helpful. So tonight he's cooked dinner for me & his sister. Dd is cooking tomorrow.

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 19:15

Thanks for posting brightwell. Great idea re the dinner rota. Hope it is delicious!

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VictoriasLittleKnownSecret · 13/09/2010 20:15

My DD has a cold and I appear to have got it. Struggled through a day at work feeling hot, sick and horrible. She was feeling better and had a school trip which she enjoyed. She went to after school club and I left work early feeling rubbish to collect her.

Work went well Busy day tomorrow. I could do with someone to cook a meal on those nights when I feel horrible and worn out. Just sharing the load :(

DD played up until bed then crashed.

I am fast following her in the crashing

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 21:05

oh poor you - bad colds are so horrible when you're in the thick of it. being ill is grim when you're doing the parenting solo. hope you feel better tomorrow.

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nowherewoman · 13/09/2010 21:15

Felt a bit down today, but I've made a list of things to do tomorrow, I'm going to try to make a habit of doing a list for each day, just mundane things like buy a tape measure, put some washing on etc. Started to fill in the questionaire for e harmony, but it's so long I got bored and I'm not ready yet anyway; need to spend a year at least on my own I think. Decided to go to some uni open days and see how the land lies.

BertieBotts · 13/09/2010 21:15

I have had a good day. Went to group at children's centre this morning which has been off over the summer, was nice, though mad - everyone turned up and there were a couple of children who just seemed intent on causing trouble!

Came home from that, DS slept, had lunch (DS ate a new kind of sandwich which is good as has doubled my quota of sandwiches which I know he likes!)

Did some tidying. Spent a bit long on the computer but DS played with his cars and was generally happy. Had a bit of an "argh" moment when I realised it was gone 4 and I hadn't put the washing on let alone started tea. So gave DS an apple and did it all at once, though he was getting tired and pulled the drawer out of the washing machine spilling washing powder and vinegar everywhere. He cried, I shouted :(

Got that sorted, had dinner, lovely man from uni phoned up and said it's very likely that I have a place on the course I applied for!! :) So was excited about that, although also panicked as it starts in 2 weeks and I haven't sorted childcare yet

Put DS to bed, had a bit of a battle with him trying to kick me and crying hysterically if I held his legs down but eventually he asked for "moolk" and went to sleep happily.

Overall pleased with sleep patterns as have been trying to change his sleep back to a normal one having been all over the place over the summer.

Tippychoocks · 13/09/2010 21:18

Bertie, wotcha going to do at Uni?

I had an OK day. Am trying to detox as have developed stress psoriasis and need to shift a bit of flab anyway ( I do sound a looker from that description don't I? ). So have been drinking water like a loon, and needing a wee vaguely all day.

Just shouted at DD for lying in bed and shouting over and over "I can't sleep". Not so good.

gettingeasier · 13/09/2010 21:42

I had a great day ticking off all my chores apart from the most important of course which is spending an hour a day doing something towards finding a job

I will do double time tomorrow.

A couple of the things were long outstanding like organising estate agents around to value my house as part of our divorce.

What would have been nice to say to someone is look at DD new to secondary school and just soooo grown up suddenly packing her bag for the morning standing in front of me in her new dressing gown from the womens dept. Where did my little girl go . Do you remember when...etc etc. However exh wouldnt have been here to have that conversation before as he would have been out drinking or comatose by now.

Nice idea for a thread Belle I come onto LP looking for something quite often but its quite a quiet one really considering how many of us are on our own

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 21:52

hello everyone. nice to see a few more replies, it is lovely to hear about people's days.

nowherewoman I did eharmony for a year - it is really good in some ways (quality rather than time wasting blokes for a start, usually) but it is frustrating that it delivers matches to you, you can't browse yourself. and some of the matches I got were rubbish - some answers literally said "blah blah blah" - I guess people get fed up with the no of questions to answer! I met a nice guy on there last year though I didn't pursue it after a few dates.

bertie that's great about the course. I'm starting one myself next week, first time learning something formally since university . Hoping it will be good though. How old is your ds? lol at doubling the sandwich quota!

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nowherewoman · 13/09/2010 21:55

Belleville I think when I can be bothered to answer all the questions, then I'll know I'm ready to start dating!

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BellevilleRendezvous · 13/09/2010 22:01

sounds about right - it's a helluva commitment that questionnaire!!

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RedHairedGirlie · 13/09/2010 22:31

I started the day by oversleeping.. kind of mixed with panic and relief . Relief that DD (17 months) had slept through the night in her cot for the last 2 nights and did not wake me up at 0500 (hence sleeping in ). Panic as I only had an hour to get us both ready and out the door.. managed it though!

Busy busy day in work but it went by quickly, then back to collect DD from nursery for some mummy and DD time (in between making a Carrot,Cheese and Lentil wedge - most yummy recipe from a mumsnet poster in the recipe section.. DD loves it and so do I :-) ). Bath, bedtime and then a bit of me time

Now lets see what time we wake up tomorrow morning..

Miley10 · 13/09/2010 22:46

Great thread, its nice to share how your day with someone. Met my parents for brekkie in the local cafe, then went onto work which turned out to be ok (just returned to work after 14 years) am struggling with my confidence at work. Just heard from a guy who I texted last week and he didnt respond, he apologised for not replying, says he has alot on his mind. Dont know whats happening with this but at least he responded this time.
Aww, redhairedgirlie, I remember mummy and dd time and i really miss them. My dd has just gone into year 10 so our time usually means walking my feet of rounds lots of clothes shops, wouldnt change any of it though

Mummalish · 14/09/2010 09:27

Well yesterday was my first day as a "bona fide" single mum as we have just had the final talk on Sunday. We are still living together, albeit in not talking and sleeping separately.

Needless to say, yesterday was tough, and I cried most of the day, I can honestly say I've never felt so low.

Battled to sleep, woke in the early hours. Then up this morning, to deal with ds. He had a little tantrum over breakfast, and kept crying for Mummy, then Daddy, then Mummy and so on. I felt so sad, as he must feel some tension and am sure he is confused.

This had me in tears and I had to go to the living room to sort myself out. Ex could see me crying, yet he gave no comfort nor said anything.

So not a great day, but it is only the beginning of a very long journey, so I suspect more of the same to come,

Tippychoocks · 14/09/2010 10:01

Oh Mummalish, poor you. It will get easier and the hard bits less frequent and less harrowing. How long will Ex stay?

Mummalish · 14/09/2010 11:14

We have to stay together for financial reasons, till early next year. That will be fun......

FreakoidOrganisoid · 14/09/2010 12:07

Oh mummalish that sounds awful. Are you sure you can't properly separate before then? Things will feel so much better once you have made the break and are able to start moving forwards.

Tippychoocks · 14/09/2010 12:27

Awful for you. I do believe you when you say you have to but it will be very difficult, do make sure you've considered every option.

Still, it's almost October, that's nearly next year

Mummalish · 14/09/2010 12:40

What I'm hoping is, that things will only get better, they surely cant get worse, so that is something to look forward to.

gettingeasier · 14/09/2010 18:06

Mummalish and yes you are right there will be more to come . Is it a mutual decision to split ,dont mean to be nosey.

My exh left Boxing Day and its been hard at times but I am so much happier now than I was in my marriage. Wish I could pass you a fast forward button !

Had a good day overall , encouraging news from estate agent about selling house says it should sell no problem phew !

Miley I need to go back to work after along break - any tips or were you returning to an existing career ?

How was everyones day?

Mummalish · 14/09/2010 18:15

gettingeasier, such a long story. Things weren't right for a while and I kept threatening to leave. When I finally decided I would like counselling, he decided against it and wanted a complete split, which has thrown me into the depths of despair.

So I thought I wanted rid of him, but when it came to the crunch, I was too frightenened, but now it's all too late...

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BellevilleRendezvous · 14/09/2010 18:16

Mummalish. Sorry to hear about all that you have going on, it sounds v tough.

My day's been hectic, left ds at nursery, took food parcel to friend with baby, came home, set up new printer, did admin, ignored mess in kitchen, went to tip with garden rubbish, tip had closed at 4pm. Grr. Picked up ds. Not going to set the world on fire in excitement terms but lots of small achievements.

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