Just wanting to vent!
My H who I'm divorcing is giving me £0 child maintenance after 19 years of marriage. He says I can afford it all on my own and unfortunately as I've paid everything on my own for our marriage, I can't disprove it, even though I'm buying him out by increasing the mortgage, which will cost an extra £150 a month. He just refuses to believe me, even though it's all written down in black and white.
Showed him today that the £250 he was meant to give me actually came off what I would have spent on the kids and he just said "Tough". Now I'm giving my son £100 a month for college instead of the £325 I was going to give him and spending £25 a month less on my daughter.
Would rather have nothing as he'd be like yours and expect me to account for it, but my kids will suffer because of it. Can't stop paying for anything else as it's all essential stuff, mortgage, bills etc. He says he will put £100 a month in a savings account for my dd, when she's 18 (she's now 11). Hard for me to believe as he hasn't saved any money in the past, whilst I have made regular savings for both dc.
I know I could go to CSA, but not whilst I live in the same area as him as he'd freak out.
I'm very worried that the judge will say that I should be giving him more as he may presume that H will be paying me child maintenance?
Some men are total prats.