But we all need to let off steam from time to time. And it's true that people who haven't been there simply don't get it. And even people who have been there seem to 'forget' once they have a new partner.
I'm tired of doing the 'I'm fine' act, I just wish someone would acknowledge that life must be a little challenging with 3 DCs on my own. But no, I have literally no-one I can call on locally. The only people who call me are my mum and the ex (when it's all about him). Really! My so-called best friend has probably called me 3 times since I separated from my H a year ago. My sister has called me once in the last 3 months and I really can't remember when I last spoke to my brother.
And I have tried so hard. Since we split I have been to several parties by myself (the only single at one, the only single over 25 at the other), I got a job having been a SAHM for a long time, I've had people over and I organised social events for school and at home. But I get absolutely no-where. I am no further on in building a social life a year after our split. Doesn't help that i have sod all money and very little time and even then ex will change his plans at the last minute and bugger up mine. And I know I can say no, but it's the DCs that suffer if I do.
And to cap it all, the DCs arrive home moaning that dad's on the phone all the time. He's told them that since we split it's really important for him to maintain his friends! Well yes, but as I have them for most of the time and he left our entire social life to me to organise and as all these friends just happen to be women....
I have caught a very severe case of resentment flu and I don't know how to get over it this time.