I wish I had seen this sooner, we also loved Stringer & are hoping to get DD in there as we know friends whose kids go there & they are very proactive with stamping out anything like bullying & supporting the DCs who go through it, which to my mind bodes well for any SN.
My own DD has some SN due to health problems, but not LD, so we were very keen to get a feel for the pastoral care angle of the school & were very impressed.
Varndean, not so much, we have a friend who's DCs also go there & one DC is AS & he had bullying problems from day one & they were slow to act, the HT is apparently a charmer, so talks well, but doesn't back it up, though it was sorted out eventually, to my mind it took too long though we do know other DCs who go there & love it, but they don't have any SN.
We put Patcham down over Varndean & we don't want DD to go there at all.
Patcham is a lovely smaller school & our friends DS who has Down's syndrome goes there & he absolutely loves it, he's had no problems & his DM thinks its the best choice she made, they were also offered Cardinal Newman, even went to church for over a year to secure a place, but went for Patcham in the end & she did a LOT of research & works in education too & he's in year 7 now, so it's all current.
I'm still hoping for Stringer though :)