Morning everyone. mL, I feel your family pain. I would be seething at sil booking up particularly after you having told her not to. Well done for sticking to your guns and making her re schedule, but why would you be footing the bill? I'd avoid that if at all possible, as it kind of takes the sting out of it iyswim.
Can I join in the family rant? I've just had my mum & step dad here this weekend. It was my dd long-awaited Christening and she and her dh together pretty much spoilt it for me.
She is such hard work, I really wish I could avoid ever having to see her again, is that a terrible thing to say & think? She gets worse each time. They come and expect also to be waited on hand and foot, they drink vast quantities of beer, they don't get drunk, but it makes me uncomfortable, alls they drank the whole weekend was 2 cups of coffee in the morning and gallons and gallons of beer constantly throughout the day, at every pit stop and opportunity. They never talk to the boys, au contraire, they make it quite clear they are profoundly irritated by them. In contrast, fil came last week, brought them easter eggs and a magazine each, the boys were thrilled with their comics. He talks to them, plays with them, always wants to treat them, says nice things to and about them. my mum comes empty handed (it isn't about getting stuff, it's about feeling loved and that she's shown thought and consideration. Blimey fil even brought me 3 magazines and a box of chocs!) My mum brought chuff all, not even a Christening gift for my baby. She did later ask if I wanted anything for her Christening. I just wanted to shout if you wish to get her a gift then bloody well choose something wrap it up and give it to her/us, not ask me after the event if I want something or if she just stick some money in a bank account.
Then we go out eg to the spring fair/market annual thing and her and her dh just wander off arm in arm without a word, dithering off in front of us, we just about catch up and they wander off again. They don't talk to us, she had 1 conversation the whole weekend with dh. They just sit on their arses giving off a really bad atmosphere, and clearly hate my kids. I wish they'd both piss off and not bother coming to see us. Thank God it's only 1 a year normally - they last came when dd was born. I was in tears every day then.
And breathe. I just feel really down, because seeing her reminds me of what a sad and shit childhood I had. She was a shit mother and now she's a shit grandmother,( and still a shit mother. )
Anyway, we told the boys yesterday we plan to stay here long term, and that they will be going to local school. Not only did they not get upset but they all said 'good' and were happy about it and took it very well. Phew.
Admylin, well done ploughing through your jobs. Have you set a date yet? Shame about the neighbour, and added stress you could do without, no doubt.