Leaving a child behind...

[Allotmenteer101]

We are currently considering moving abroad to increase our quality of life.

We have an 19 year old daughter currently at university here in the UK, who has said that she isn't sure whether she wants to come with us or not, but that if its a good opportunity for us, we should take it either way. Our other children are younger and so would be coming with us.

Am I a terrible parent for even considering moving and leaving our daughter behind here in the UK?

I can't decide whether I'm being an bit of an over precious parent, I know there are many children who get educated abroad from their parents for all sorts of reasons, or selfish for doing what suits us.

She would obviously fly out to us every holiday etc. but I'm struggling with the idea of not being 'on tap' for her if she needs us.

Go for it.
Most people move out and don’t return home after uni. Just make sure she is in accommodation that she doesn’t have to leave at Christmas etc and she can stay in all year around and that she knows she can stay with family etc. But the opportunities for her with you being out there are huge as well.

Didn’t see the zombie thread post, but now I want to know OP if you went for it!

Thousands of children keave home to go to uni overseas. My friends and I all did. Did us no harm. Most of the students I teach will live overseas from their parents. Is it somewhere that would be a good holiday destination for her?

Oh FFS

I would say go, she will not be alone in this situation. Just ensure she has family or friends where she can go for a weekend and longer holidays if she can't fly to China

I posted a question to ask if the op went ahead and what happened...

Not really a zombie thread as this was Oct 2018 and in the scheme of things that's not a vast amount of time when planning and making a move abroad ...

However, looks like the OP isn't about just now so I shall have to carry on and decide without hearing their experience ...

I was just going to mention the British ex pat students who were at my UK Uni with me in the 90’s. Their parents were in Egypt, Brazil and Hong Kong.
They certainly didn’t seem to worry about their parents being thousands of miles away. In fact most chose t9 go home once a year for Christmas and stayed over in the summer.