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[buzzybee]

Hi all. Used to be a regular on MN when I lived in London but since moving back to NZ have found it harder to make the connections due to all the brits being asleep when us down under are online! So if anyone is keen to start a thread for those of us in this predicament please reply! My DD has just turned 5 and started school last week (scary). Have just found out I'm expecting number 2 - due roughly Xmas day...

Yes I can definitely see you in her!!

Everyone says DD1 looks just like me but am inclined to think its because we share height and curly hair as much as anything else. I kind of hope the DDs look a bit like each other despite having diff Dads!

Oh and forgot to add that they are both very very cute!

Thanks for the kind words...I got a big blank exercise book on Friday and started writing down everything I wish I could say to my mum, about her, about me, about Amelia, everything. It's helping hugely - I've been crying as I write it but it's so good to get it all out of my head.

So I'm feeling better, there will prob be harder days again, but one day at a time and all that.

Went to see my old flatmate who ahd her baby on Waitangi Day. Imagine my when she told me that one of her antenatal group died just after giving birth. It was at Auckland - I haven't read the papers for weeks so I hadnt' even heard about it - it was a post-partum haemmorhage - they did emergency hysterectomy but nothing would stop the bleding and she basically bled to death . How horrendous.

My friend went to the funeral, she was still pg, and was induced a few days later - she said she was absolutely terrified during labour. She ended up with em c/s and kept saying to her dh "I don't want to die, I don't want to die" .

Ironically, she was probably safer giving birth then as I'm sure all the staff were being hyper-vigilant because of the maternal death. What a horrific tragedy

Good on you Anna, sounds like a really positive thing to do.

Horrible about your friend's friend tho. I don't think I caught that one in the paper either. The same night Beatrix was born there was a baby born in Wellington who died the next day. I only know this thru my midwife. Apparently she had major abnormalities but nothing was picked up during her PG. Really makes you think doesn't it?

Anyone for an Akld meet-up next school hols? Am thinking about going up there the first week (i.e. around April 20) for a couple of nights. Will prob stay with a friend in Ponsonby. Had also thought about going to Chch but will maybe do that the following school hols! Have friends in both cities would be nice to catch up with.

I'm definitely up for a meet-up. I worked in Ponsonby for 6 years and had lots of nights out there too so I know it well. There are a couple of cafes there that are child-centred - big play areas and story times etc - may be good for your older dd, Buzzy.

Hi everyone, very muggy evening here in Wellington. Glad you're finding ways of coping Anna. It must be the hardest thing. And I feel so lucky to have healthy children. Even thinking about my children being sick/dying makes me weep. That poor mum. Ok, geek question - how do I post pictures on my profile?

Hi Shells, good to see you back. To share photos you click on "My Mumsnet" at top of page, then log in, then at the bottom of that page, under "Public Profile" you click on "share photos". Then you browse your computer for photos you want. You can resize them as bigger as the default size is quite small.

Don't think we can make a meet up sadly. That would be fun. Ok, I've posted some pics, finally. You need to do some too Anna.
Mrs JC - how is it going? My in-laws arrived last week. I am taking a lot of deep breaths. They are staying with us, off and on for about 3 weeks. Its good to have the extra help but there's a high price to pay in that I have to listen to inane chatter 24 hours a day. DP, conveniently disappears to work.

Great pics Shells, especially the one of Rosie!

DD has a tooth coming through! She has been dribbling quite a bit recently so had a feel and sure enough felt a hard bump. On looking closer can actually see a little white bump has broken through. In a rather odd place though - to the right not in the middle. I lost my first baby tooth when I was 3 so guess she takes after me - DD1 is almost 6 and no sign of wiggly teeth. Just as well I'm not BF!

Oh my god buzzy. She's obviously very advanced! As you say, thank goodness you're not breastfeeding. I went to a plunket group thingy this morning. It was ok. Don't think I'll go again though.

it is going OK thanks for asking
I don't know how I'm going to last another 6 and a half weeks though, neither does DH

they are taking DD out with DH quite a bit which is great but I'm terrified that soon I'm going to be accused of being unfriendly or something (there's previous on this)

lovely pictures Shells.

oh and DS has 12 teeth now including 4 molars and I am still breasfeeding. He's not 1 yet! am hoping he just gets the whole lot now and then it's over and done with

My ILs give me a running commentary on DS2s diet continuously. 'he doesn't eat much does he'. 'he likes this, he doesn't like that'. 'did he eat his tea?'. it goes on and on and on. i am so bored with it. he is truly a rubbish eater, but he's reasonably healthy and not underweight/overweight so I really have more important things to fixate on (MN, sudoku, aimless staring into space). Arrgghhhhhh!

However, DP and I did go out last night and saw 'Juno' which was fab, and I felt like a real person again. Very therapeutic.

Juno is a fab film, I agree.

My mil..well I hate to be mean as she is possibly going to be driving me round the UK when I go back...

...but every time she speaks to me she says "Are you still feeding the baby yourself????" in tones of great amazement and surprise as if I am doing something totally unusual and slightly weird. She has been saying this since the baby was about 2 weeks old!

I'm planning to keep bf till she's about one too, so the Lord alone knows what she will think of that...

(excuse the ranty tone, I've had a couple of glasses of wine and it really doesn't take that much these days to get me a bit tipsy)

Oh and Amelia is teething too, Buzzy! Can see the top two front ones coming through.

My latest MiL special is -
MiL picks up baby. Baby cries and cries (usually tired/hungry etc.). I take baby off her in the nicest possible way. Baby stops crying. MiL looks amazed and says 'I can't believe she knows who her mother is when she's so young!'.
Hmmmm.
Now repeat scenario about 4 or 5 times a day.

Shells, do you think she's being deliberately obtuse or is just an expert in making inane conversation and forgets that she's already made that particular sparkling observation 10 times previously!?

Makes me realise my Mum's observations about giving Bea water when the weather's hot are relatively mild and forgiveable (after all I think that was the advice back in the day when milk was only to be provided on a strict 4 hour rotation!)

Hang in there! (and you too MrsJC - how're you going?)

She is the queen of inane conversation. I am scraping at the bottom of the barrel of my niceness!

oh I am hanging in there - just. ONly another 6 weeks to go. had a thread going yesterday on my FIL deciding to pee in our toilet without shutting the door - it's right outside the living room, and DD was in there too - all very strange. And I now know he doesn't wash his hands

they're talking about not doing their week trip away, so DH as 2 more weeks holiday - I could potentially have them on my own for 4 weeks in a row. THere are no words

DD being a bit vile BUT she is finally out of nappies - as with everything, had to wait until SHE decided and bloody hell it took a long time

DS is 1 on the 8th . Can't believe it!
oh and Anna, my ILs are beyond gobsmacked that I'm still 'feeding him myself'. I think they think it's deeply weird but don't dare say anything to me. Good- I think ILs should be a little bit scared of you myself!

Shells - share my pain.

I mean I share your pain

sorry have had hideous day.
am gibbering. but now have large glass of wine thank goodness

Not wanting to make light of your predicament but at "share my pain".

And while we're on the topic, my mil can't bring herself to say the word "breastfeeding" so she comes up with all sorts of weird expressions. She asked me "Is she still eating...you?", which makes dd sound like some kind of tiny cannibal

oh LOL
yes they can't say 'breastfeeding' either
apparently they can piss practically in my living room though

yesterday she told me all about her MIL and how dreadful she was, with no apparent sense of irony. I expect I was supposed to say 'oh poor you, I'm so lucky aren't I?' but I'm afraid I didn't!

Did no one warn you when you moved to NZ that you'd have to put up with extended visits from extraneous family members?!!

MrsJC - you did say they weren't staying with you? At least that must provide some relief?

Bea is being SOOO good at the moment, I really can't believe it, almost scary actually. Of course she has her grumbly periods especially early evening but is so easy to settle to sleep - really not sure what I've done right. About the only thing I can think of is that the first night she slept thru was when we spent a night away - seemed to shake her (metaphorically speaking!) out of her normal routine of waking between 2 and 4am and she's never reverted back (touch wood...)

Mrs JC - sharing your pain. Mine have gone to Chch for a week. I am feeling human again. It will be temporary.

what, they're HERE?

yes they're not staying buzzy so that is something. 7 weeks though....anyway we had a 'day off' today as DH kept calling it and it was lovely.

How nice that BEa is being lovely!

Would you like them to come over for a cuppa? They could all compare notes on strange parenting habits . They're staying with my parents and no doubt consoling each other with stories of leaving babies to cry, not 'spoiling' them, solids at 6 weeks etc. Ahhh. those were the days. (And it never did us any harm...)