WHERE'S BEST TO LIVE IN NZ AND WHAT DO WE NEED TO KNOW: PART 5!

[AngryBeaver]

Look at us Chatty Cathy's!
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Well, first flight accomplished, second one to Hong Kong leaves in 3 hours.

We are well and truly on our way!!

No 2 is ok AB, obviously there's bits you'd redecorate but has a woodburner and I like the slide off the deck - my dcs would think that was brilliant. Don't think the garden is as big as third one? Kitchen on third one isn't too bad, just plain white. Our kitchen and both our bathrooms should really be replaced. One bathroom in particular looks like someone has found as many ugly mismatching 70s bathroom fixtures as poss and put them all in one bathroom .

First one is the nicest but does look like someone else will get it.

I meant no 2 has potential. no 3 is teeny.
My dd squealed when I showed her the slide! And no, think the garden is smaller. Would be great for a slip n slide though
Manky bathrooms are my bug bear. Nearly every bathroom we've had here has been frigging awful. I used to be all "for gods sake, how much would it cost to get a basic all white suite and stick a few beige tiles down??!"
Getting used to it now.

Yay, frick!

Oh you should see my bathroom. Hasn't been touched since 60's. Friends wince when they go in it

No 2 is only 10sq m bigger than 3. Bathroom looks new. Also north facing and looks like it's quite high up so hopefully gets quite a lot of sun in the colder months. Guess its hard to tell til you actually visit them.

Welcome to NZ frik (when you land!)

The cricket (plus other stuff) caused a massive argument between dp and I on Saturday. We usually argue, get it over and done with then carry on as normal. This time it's dragging on and not sure when we'll get back to normal.

Kinda feel like just packing up the kids and me and buggering off somewhere for a week.

Hope everything is going ok with your mum justa

Good luck with the contract signing AB

Safe journey frik

See you Friday vvv

Welcome fanjolina

My friend in the UK has just bought has new house.
Although her and her dh have fab jobs, she isn't fussed with "interior design"!

She text me and said "AB, I think of you everytime I go into the bathroom. It is a fetching shade of POO BROWN...I fear you would hyperventilate on sight!"
I said "That sounds revolting dr sexbot, I trust you will be getting a man in to ammend the situation?!"
And she said "as you well know, I couldn't give a stuff!"
Each to their own, but uuuurgh, avacodo/brown/70's bathrooms? nonononononononononononononono!

I would rip that out before I started on the kitchen or anything else.

(I also have a thing about public toilets, but that's another story)

xminerva

Would you consider being the "bigger" person and ending it?

I sometimes say "I'll say sorry if you will?"
Just because I hate bad feeling.
It does take a lot sometimes to do that, I admit.

Or has he said something for which he must grovel?

When i say ENDING it, obviously, I just mean the arguement!!

I am not trivialising how you feel by suggesting you hold out the olive branch, by the way.
I have felt like you have, like just getting the kids and going to a hotel or something. But, in retrospect, it wasn't worth all the bad feeling.

Oh it'll blow over, it always does. It's just lots of little things that have built up since we've been here tbh. Mostly to do with his work.

However I think it just comes down to jealousy, from me, I need something that's just for me iygwim.

I'd been applying for little part time jobs but nothing had come of it when I wrote my last post, between then and now though, I have 2 potential job offers which has sort of lifted a huge weight of my shoulders.

If I can jut get out once or twice a week for something that is just for me, and not have to be so dependant on dh, I think I'd feel a lot better. It's never bothered me before but being here has pointed out that if dp and I ever broke up, I would be well and truly f*.

Enough moaning anyway, it's a lovely day. Hope you're all enjoying it.

I'd be fucked too, xminerva! Have no money of my own and no career. But, I am also perfectly capable if turning that around if I needed to. I am sure you are too.

Is there any course you would like to take?

Now dh will have sensible working hours again, I have looked into some courses running on Waiheke.

I'm lookinmg forward to doing something for me.

I hope you're talikng again now

Must be the day for it, Mum and I fell out too. Afraid I couldn't hold in my feelings anymore.

Should probably say, it's all good, mostly blown over.

We've booked ourselves an evening at The Observatory on Saturday, without kids, to talk properly instead of sulking.

Hope you've all had a good day.

Wow, good x-post there.

Oh dear about your mum. Hope that blows over soon too.

Am looking into a few distance learning courses at the moment.

Oh dear AB hope you and your Mum can patch it up.
(By the way, did you know Auckland University run their wine-making course on Waiheke? you could keep us all supplied )

XMinerva - I'm in a similar situation in some ways, although I know my career is waiting for me when we go back, but here I'm 100% reliant on DH & his job. It's not an entirely comfortable feeling. Hope you've managed to patch things up.

Oh good, xminerve...enjoy your meal [meal]

vviola, no but they are living up to their hippy Island sterotype by running a flax weaving course!!

Yeah, Mum was going on about when we were leaving the Uk and I was buying summer clothes and cozzies etc and she said "I wanted to wrap them around your bloody neck, tbh! You were so insensensitve"

I was just trying to normalise the situation for everyone and let Mum see the kids getting excited to try and pull her out of the doldrums.
She told me that her dp, and my db were so angry with me and it has taken them a long time to forgive me for what I have done to dm.
Apparantly, only now are they beginning to.

Afraid I had to let rip at this point.

After everything I have been through and they saddle me with all that too.

Ha xminerve I meant not [meal]!

And why do I keep tying xminerve?? Not even had any wine!

AB, youre tying xminerva? What are you doing to her???

Sorry about the row with your mum.

Though, your mum is over for, what, 3 months? I think pretty much anyone would have at least one row in that time.

I have her in my basement...shhhhh!

Yep, I think I've done quite well. I have bitten my lip A.LOT. But, today was too far.
I think she finally Got It, though.

Thought it was dark in this bedroom. Turns out I'm in a basement.

Keep me topped up with and I'll happily stay here.

I'm sleeping on a floor still at home anyway

xminerva....did I say you could speak?! Just rattle your chains!
(ok I'll stop now!)
Yes, justa, I realised that might be taken the wrong way!Oops!

And regarding the teaching...that is fucked up. Is it that they can hire the students for minimum wage?
Dh hires journo students to cut back the budget

You're clearly underqualified, justa