thumb - our last couple of trips home it has been quite frightening how much the culture shock hit us - everything is so small (i know, such a cliche), and even the 'nice' shopping areas have tramps, broken windows, dirty streets etc. my parents live in the SE & it is so crowded & expensive. if we left here & went back, it would be a v hard adjustment to make.
having said that, i was horrifically homesick all summer, but once the green cards came through and we could travel, i felt ok again. for me it seems to be that i have to know i could get home if i had to.
dh hankers after new zealand, but for me that would be too far. a 12 hour journey home is 'doable', so long as i can afford the flights once a year.
we've been here just over two years, and it's only recently that it started to feel like home, not like i was visiting. now when we've been somewhere, i get that 'ahh, home' feeling, but even in the summer, i didn't really feel like that.
dh, however, has had no probs with adjusting. strange, isn't it, how people react differently.