Thanks all - will look into those
ILove my reservations are many
dh has already been out there for 3 years, but it started off as a 6 month contract, then gradually crept up and up and only this year did it morph into a permanent job
up until now, it's not been too bad as he was doing 3 weeks in Abu Dhabi and 1 week back but his latest role is completely based in AD and he's only getting back every 6 weeks or so, which is a looooong time
He's suggested we all move out there
pluses are we'd all be together, I'd be able to find work in my old field more easily (acc to dh) and we wouldn't be spending stupid money on his appartment plus our mortgage in London
minuses are the dc don't want to move at all - ds1 is 13 and very, very happy and settled at an outstanding school, ds2 has mild asperger's and is settled at the moment with a very good group of friends who'll all be going to the local secondary with him (if we're here), and dd is just about to start a new school in y3, I've got lots of friends here, my sister and her kids live round the corner and my dad is 84 and not very well
my career went down the toilet after having kids and moving to America (for dh's job) for a year and I'm now working part-time in an unrelated field (although I'm very good at what I do - she says modestly
- I just can't do enough hours to make it pay as most work tends to be evenings/weekends which I can't do with dh away)
however, dh says that if he comes back, he'd have to take a pay cut from what he's getting now, and we can't cover all our outgoings unless I'm working properly too - so at the moment my choices appear to be get a well-paid job (a big ask considering I've been out of full-time work for 10 years and in the current economic climate) or move to Abu Dhabi/Dubai
Dubai has been thrown into the mix as lots of his colleagues live there, but work in AD and accomodation is much cheaper
I genuinely don't know what to do - what course of action would be best - and I'm giving myself a monumental headache with everything going round and round in circles
sorry
vent over ...