She’s got hours left

[Thby2023]

I’ve written on mumsnet before desperately searching for hope. On the 7th of December my mums face dropped slightly. It’s the 29th of February and she’s in a hospice unable to move because of this stupid fucking evil cancer in her head.

62 years old. My best friend. I speak to her everyday. I’ve just had a baby, my sister is 35 weeks pregnant and she is my son’s favourite person. We were told they were treating it, it hasn’t worked.

I don’t know how I’m going to get through this. My mum is everything to me. I see her everyday. How can life be so fucking cruel. She wants to live she wants to be here.

So very sorry

sending you love and prayers xx

I’m so sorry 💐

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Your mum sounded like a wonderful person 💕

I'm so sorry for your loss. 62 is no age
Look after yourself

This was me seven years ago. Hugest hugs. You will get through this. There is no easy way to say goodbye to your beloved mum and best friend. At the hospice the kind nurses said to me time is the healer. My mum herself said to me it gets better when I cried and asked her how I could go on without her.
At the time it sounds so glib. But you will be okay - the love of your mum is always with you. Go easy on yourself.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum. Like a pp said, it can be a weirdly calm, almost spacey thing. Don't expect you have to feel a certain way, and don't beat yourself up if you don't feel how you expect to. Be very very kind to yourself. Hugs xx

Am so sorry to hear about your loss of your lovely mum.
I will keep you in my prayers and your mum will always be with you but unfortunately not visible or on this earth.

I have a picture of my mum on my sun visor in my car, so she travels daily with me ( she always did when alive).

life is hard, be extra kind to yourself. Take care.
🙏🏻💐

This has brought tears to my eyes.

I'm so deeply sorry. You're right. You deserved more time. It's so unfair.

Sending you love and strength OP

xx

I am so sorry for your loss

Oh bless you @Thby2023.

Sorry for your loss, sending you hugs. Take each day as it comes 🌻

So sorry for your loss OP x

Thank you all so much for your replies, you’ll never know how grateful I am to come back and read these when it’s too hard to talk to those close to me. Me and my dad and partner are at my sisters reminiscing. There’s a big hole, I’m scared it will be forever there but scared it’ll go away. Weird sensation. I miss her and love her so much, I feel robbed. But I felt oddly calm when it happened like you said. She deserved so much more of life and it’s going to hit me gradually I know but for now I’m calm and with my family. Last thing I said to her was see you later and she went soon after. I think because she knew I didn’t really want to be there when the time came. My dad and sister were holding her hands and saying we loved her. I’m still in shock I’m not going to see her again I love her so deeply.. goodnight mum. See you on the other side ❤️xxxxx

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. She was so young. She sounds like she was an amazing woman.
I agree with a previous poster who said that there is no right or wrong way to grieve for someone.

I'm so sorry love 💐. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

If you need support in the weeks and months ahead there is a variety of orgs that can help, but please don't hesitate to visit your local church too, we can't change what's happened but we can provide a quiet space from everyday life and a listening ear, often most useful months later, we are still there. Some of my ladies still pop in to chat years later (men aren't as in to talking I find) especially on anniversaries/birthdays etc.

I lost my Dad a year ago in very similar circumstances to you. He was my absolute world and I could've never imagined him not being here.

I completely understand how you're feeling right now. Just take everything one day at a time. It does get easier eventually, it's taken me a year to be in a place where I can talk about him without crying.

Go easy on yourself, in time it will hurt a little less.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum, it’s a huge wrench to your heart. I can only go on my experience but the initial rawness and numbness is slowly replaced by fond loving memories that make you smile. x

So sad for you all, life is so unfair. Your mum sounds like she truly was a wonderful person, you’ll take her love with you for the rest of your life. Take care x

I know how you feel. Loosing a parent in their 60’s to cancer does feel like everyone has been robbed. It’s way too young and as you say, they want to live. It’s not fair but I hope it does get better.

I'm so sorry xx

I’m so sorry, I’m 27 and lost my mum last week at 57 in a hospice too after a random bleed on the brain. I’ve already gone through the anger and it’s been a tough week or so so I really feel for you. I’ve even been looking at innocent old people and thinking why did you get to that age and not my lovely mum. I know it sounds awful but it’s honestly grief ☹️

I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. Sending love ❤️

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful mum xx

I'm so very sorry for you and your family. We're all here for you in this vague online cloud of strangers. Come any time to scream or have a virtual hug.

Sending you strength and love.