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My beautiful sister

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Run4it2 · 23/06/2023 14:42

I adore her. She had melanoma in COVID, they said they got it all etc, and it's back. Looking like it will be pretty quick now.

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SwankyPants · 01/07/2023 16:20

You are all my thoughts xx

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Run4it2 · 01/07/2023 16:34

Thank you all so much. Just been to see her but she's very weak. She was trying to talk but she's so weak that I was struggling to understand. They don't think anything will happen over the weekend. They're moving her back to hcu on Monday in accordance with her wishes. We don't have long, and for her sake that's good because she's normally vibrant funny and full of life, and this isn't her (though she was still making faces at me)

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quietlycontent · 01/07/2023 16:42

Sending you a hug, it must be hard for everyone x

Houseplantmad · 01/07/2023 16:53

What a very sad situation for you all but you sound like an amazing sister and daughter. She must be very happy you’re able to be with her during this awful time. Take care of yourself.

PollyPeptide · 01/07/2023 17:14

It's so hard because you want to keep them with you for as very long as you can but at the same time you want to do what's best for them. And two are not always compatible.
She is blessed to be surrounded by so many people who love her and are doing everything they can to make her end as good as it can be.
My thoughts,are with you all. x

sammyjoanne · 01/07/2023 17:32

So so sorry whats happening with your sister. I lost a BIL 5 years ago to pancreatic cancer. He never told anyone until one day he collapsed and died the next day. The doctors knew and he knew for months, he just wanted to carry on as normal as he could do. Its a horrible situation to be in and I really feel for you and your family at this hard time x

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 01/07/2023 18:55

Reaching out with a hand to hold... so sorry to hear what you're going through with your beautiful sister. Flowers

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Run4it2 · 01/07/2023 20:57

Looking after the wee fella tonight to give his dad a break. He's fab and a good distraction. Just very very sad tonight - thanks for holding my hand through all of this.

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ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 01/07/2023 21:12

Run4it2 · 01/07/2023 20:57

Looking after the wee fella tonight to give his dad a break. He's fab and a good distraction. Just very very sad tonight - thanks for holding my hand through all of this.

I think children can sometimes be surprisingly therapeutic at times like this. I'm sure his dad is very grateful too. Your family have not been far from my mind the last few days and I've been hugging my daughter a little bit tighter than usual. Sending love x

LavanderSmellsLovely · 01/07/2023 23:29

They're moving her back to hcu on Monday in accordance with her wishes

Have they a bed for her?

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Run4it2 · 01/07/2023 23:35

Apparently so - they had several free on Thursday when she was in there.

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LavanderSmellsLovely · 01/07/2023 23:39

That's good to hear. I'm in Ireland too and the HSE always seems to be creaking at the seams. Hopefully they haven't filled up over the weekend. When my brother in law was dying a few years ago they were planning on moving another critically ill patient to another hospital so he could have the ICU bed.
It's a heart breaking time for you.

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Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 00:27

Several intensive care beds were free too, which I was surprised at.

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AppleDumplingWithCustard · 02/07/2023 02:13

Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 00:27

Several intensive care beds were free too, which I was surprised at.

Me too. They’re often in very short supply.

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Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 11:39

She was struggling to breathe so they sedated and intubated her at ca 4 am. But surreal - I've had to slap a smile on my face playing football with the boy, who is oblivious

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loislovesstewie · 02/07/2023 11:44

Just here to offer you a hug and a handhold. Give the little boy a hug too, from me.💕

Usernamenotavailab · 02/07/2023 11:45

Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 11:39

She was struggling to breathe so they sedated and intubated her at ca 4 am. But surreal - I've had to slap a smile on my face playing football with the boy, who is oblivious

Does your sister have a DNR?

continentallentil · 02/07/2023 11:49

I am so so sorry OP.

I am glad you are all around her.

I know you have so much on your mind right now, but is there a service at the hospital who could help your BIL talk to your nephew so he is prepared for what’s happening?

keyboardkat · 02/07/2023 11:51

Usernamenotavailab · 02/07/2023 11:45

Does your sister have a DNR?

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I was afraid to ask the same thing. OP my thoughts are with you. My youngest sister died in Marymount Hospice in Cork. (She met and then married a Corkie when she lived in Worcester and they moved over). Beautiful place. Prior to that she was in UHC and when there was no hope left they arranged for hospice. Best thing ever, if you can say that, but the peace and tranquility and no beeping machines was the right thing. If you could ask for a peaceful passing, that was it. Still heartbroken ten years on.

Tallisimo · 02/07/2023 11:52

So sorry about this, my heart goes out to you all x

GrazingSheep · 02/07/2023 12:02

I've had to slap a smile on my face playing football with the boy, who is oblivious

Has he been told that his mother is dying?

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Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 12:02

Yes, think a DNR was put in place a few days ago (at least middle sister told me it was under discussion). I'm told she looks very peaceful - I'm glad she's out for the count - it was very hard on her feeling so unwell.

They're still talking about trying radiation tomorrow to shrink the mass on the lung, which could mean they could extubate her, but I don't think they should put her body through that.

8 year old now stomping around because I won't let him watch inappropriate stuff on you tube..

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Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 12:08

He has been, and on one level he gets it, but on another he really doesn't. His friends mother died a few months ago, and my sister took the friend under her wing, so he understands, but she's been in hospital a few weeks and I think in his mind she's just there. The doctors have talked with him and were really good.

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 02/07/2023 12:57

I'm so sorry you're going through this. We lost my sister in Jan last year. She went to hospital on 12th Jan with what we thought was a broken rib, she drove herself and everything. 2 weeks later she was dead, I never got to see her as covid protocols kept me away 😡

Turned out she had bile duct cancer. We found this out on the Tuesday, Wednesday we were told its terminal and she fell unconscious, Thursday night she died orphaning her 2 sons as their Dad killed himself in 2020.

I'll be thinking of you and your family xx

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Run4it2 · 02/07/2023 13:29

@moose - so sorry to hear about your sister. And if my sister hadnt noticed her freckle in COVID this would have happened three years ago, with us not having seen each other - so I'm counting my blessings that we had another three raucous years together. Hope your sister's kids are doing ok x

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