Waiting for the call :(

[Twix42]

My sister in law has terminal breast cancer, its end stage, she's palliative in a hospice and she's 40 with young kids.
It's awful. I'm waiting for the call to say she's gone. It's torture.

I don't know why I'm posting really.

I don't know how we will cope with this, without her.

Heartbreaking 💔
Sending love and strength to you all

Horrible. I’ve lost two good friends to cancer. I remember that feeling that you want it to end because it’s so painful to watch them suffer and fade, but the dread of it ending because you don’t want them to go. Best wishes to you all.

Aww I’m so sorry, so young 😢 When you think you’re having a bad day and see something like this you feel like giving yourself a shake. Thinking of you all and her poor kiddies 😢❤️

I know someone who was widowed for the second time not so long ago. Her first husband committed suicide and the second had a brain tumour. She's only 51.

How utterly sad, I hope her passing was peaceful.

I'm so sorry. Huge hugs to you and your family!!

So sorry @Twix42 💐

I'm so very sorry. Sending you and your family love at this time.
I lost a good friend earlier this year and I still can't believe I won't see him again. You'll be in shock for a little while, it's your body's way of protecting you. Be very gentle with yourself.

I genuinely don’t know what to say . Am so sorry 😞💐💕Xx

I'm so sorry

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Thank you, you are all so lovely. The kindness of strangers.
I feel relief that she has no more pain or suffering. But it all feels so surreal. I have so many memories of that funny girl I can't bear to think of them.
I just keep thinking of saying goodbye in the hospice and her face 😢 it will be impossible to forget her 😭😭💔

So very sorry xx💐

Can you share a happy memory of her with us Twix?

Sending love. My mum died when I was 2 and sister was 4. Our dad never remarried but I remember much happiness in our childhood. Friends and family were incredible. Even though I have no memories at all of my mum, I am so proud of her and feel stronger because of what happened. Sending you a big virtual hug and literally shedding a tear for you. xxxxx

My best friend passed away in September aged 44 leaving a 2 year old and a 10 year old. I was with her when she passed. There was very little time from diagnoses 'til she passed and it was heart breaking to watch - but I was with her every step of the way. And have no regrets. Thereafter I've been there for her husband and children in exactly the same way I was always there for her. Im lucky that her husband welcomed that and I already had a close friendship with them all. I look after the children but I also spend time with them all as a family and book activities for us all to do together (my husband and kids too) and even a holiday next year. Yes it is is beyond devastating for everyone involved and we definitely haven't seen that from the children yet but life goes on and just continue to love and support in every way that you can. You can all get through it. Big hugs x

I'm sorry for your loss, how you speak of her is how everyone would love tobe remembered. Look after yourself and family xxx

Very sorry for your loss. Sending you good thoughts and strength .💐

I am so sorry to hear of your loss Twix, I know you will be supporting your children and other family members, but please take time to support yourself too. Sometimes people who are not seen as “blood” relatives can get a little lost in the mix because everyone is focussed on partners, parents, children and siblings, which is of course the right thing to do , but does leave others on the periphery. Your grief is just as valid and as painful to you. You need to do some crying before you can do some laughing , some remembering and some memory sharing.

My condolences OP.

So sorry Twix.

I’m so very sorry for you and all your family x

@Twix42 so sorry for all your loss. It' desperately sad to know DC won't have a parent to see them grow. Your poor PIL too, they must be broken. Heartbreaking all round. I hope happy memories help you though.

@billybear so sad for your BIL to have to say goodbye a second time to a partner far too young, sometimes life just seems so unfair.

Twix, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved SIL/Friend.

I know that you have 23 years worth of stories that you can share with her children which will bring them —and you—much comfort. 💕