I have cancer, friend wants to support DH

[Symmetryisoverrated]

I’ve got breast cancer and my lovely DH has been a rock throughout my treatment, and I know that this can be a difficult time for the partner as well as the patient.

One particular friend keeps texting DH to check on how he is doing and asking if he wants to meet for coffee. She hasn’t messaged me much. DH isn’t responding to her but I’m feeling angry that she seems to be taking the chance to make a move on him while I am ill. I am already a ball of anxiety and I am not looking or feeling my best (understatement!). How can I deal with this?

She's a nasty opportunistic bitch & you are not at all paranoid.

I read to my DH too & he says... "okay I'm thick as shit with women trying stuff like this, but even I would be going WTAF & would be angry with friend for being such a bitch"

Dump toxic friend & block her on everything

She's an opportunistic predator.
Neither you nor DH need her in your lives.
Good luck with your treatment OP (and a platonic hug for your DH).

WTF everyone and me thinks the same. What a horrendous woman.
I know someone who did this. She stole the husband of a friend with cancer as she lived through her last months. I shunned her and refused to speak to her ever again. People who do this are absolute scum.
I'd have the major rage over the phone then block, block, block.

Your friend sounds awful. I'd definitely "get rid" of her. I had breast cancer nearly 10 years ago and you certainly get to know who your true friends are. Get rid of her and concentrate on getting through these next few months with your treatment. Concentrate on yourself and your family. xxxx

She sounds like a right vulture. Yuk.

Wishing you well op

Is she single?

She's a cheeky mare! Especially to continue messaging him when you've asked her not to, as if she knows better than you what he needs.

Your DH needs to put her in her place. I wouldn't suggest that he asks her to support you though. I've been where you are OP and she is the last kind of person I would have wanted 'support' from

God she sounds like the horrible stepmom in fleabag 🤢 hope you have other nicer friends to support you OP

God she sounds like the horrible stepmom in fleabag 🤢 hope you have other nicer friends to support you OP

If suggest he adds his focus is on you and you only during this time to his reply suggested above.

Eg.
Hi Wifes friend. I have received several messages from you now suggesting we meet for a coffee. Having spoke with my wife, it appears you are contacting me more frequently than her, I am sure you understand I am finding this attention very uncomfortable.

My only focus and concern at this time is on DW and making sure she's ok and I have all the support I need from my freinds."

Then he's reminding her you are the most important - as she seems to have forgotten that fact.

I'd cut her off as a freind too - she's hovering like a vulture - and no one needs someone around who wants them out of the picture!

Except she's no friend to @Symmetryisoverrated

It was 3 months ago.

I'm sure it's been dealt with by now