Can I join in please, I know everyone else is dealing with a partner with cancer but for me it's my mum. I'm just so tired and stressed from it all. She was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer back in Feb 2019, it had spread to her bones by the time we found out. At the time we were told she probably only had 3 to 6 mths to live without treatment but she is still with us 18 mths later, the monthly hormone injections brought her tumour marker right down and basically her cancer is on pause. You'd never know that to see her though, she has been getting increasingly weaker by the month and is now almost completely bed bound. She also has Atrial Fibrillation and this absolutely knocks her sideways when she gets it as she's so weak already. There doesn't seem to be any particular medical reason for her severe decline , the doctor thinks its most likely the fact that she also has arthritis and fibromyalgia as well as the AF and cancer plus she's 74. My 79 yr old dad is her primary carer, and then I go there 4 or 5 days a week to help out and do all the housework etc which is difficult as I have my own family and my dh has MS himself. Its so hard seeing my mum so weak and in pain, she used to be such an active involved sociable person , now she has literally no quality of life left. She can't read, watch TV, talk for long, nothing. All she can do is listen to audio books and sleep. And yet the gp says she's in no imminent danger of dying, unless she gets an infection or something it could be months or more, its like the death of a thousand cuts. I know it's awful to say but I'm at the stage where I feel it would be nearly better if she went, at least she would be at peace and no more pain. Plus selfishly I'd have my life back, for the past 18mths my life and my family have basically been on hold. All the emotional burden of her illness, her sadness, anger , fear, severe anxiety etc falls on me because she has no one else to vent it to. I've one sibling who is not interested and is no help at all so I find it incredibly draining. My poor dh has his own issues with MS and I know he keeps them from me as much as he can because he doesn't want to burden me even more (even though I constantly tell him I want him to share his troubles with me). I think its just weighing me down at the moment because my dad has to go into hospital next week for an operation so I have to move in to their house for the week at least to care for both of them . I'll be obviously taking the week off work and my lovely dh is also taking time off to bring dad to and from the hospital yet my only sibling won't help out in any meaningful way, he just don't see it as his responsibility which I find very unfair. I know you can't make people care but I just can't understand it.