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My son may be dying

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aloneinthenight · 04/04/2020 06:07

Just that.

He has cancer, they have not been able to control it.

They have given him one last chemotherapy to see if it can turn a corner but his body may not be able to tolerate it and it may not work.

We have been told to prepare ourselves for him to deteriorate suddenly.

My husband can't be with us because my son also has Coronavirus so we are in isolation and he is with our other son.

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aloneinthenight · 29/08/2020 13:29

Thank you so much everybody for all your messages.

It's been a really rough few months and I've gone to ground a little. Lockdown has helped with that to be honest as it's given me a bit of space.

Slowly starting to return to the world, which is proving hard and really tiring.

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MrsCalypsoGrant · 29/08/2020 16:22

Hi OP, I've been thinking of you & wondering how you've been doing. I hope you've been treating yourself kindly through this dreadful time & that your partner & other son are doing as ok as they can be.

Although life will never be the same again for any of you I'm sure the sun will come out again one day. I wish you all every bit of luck in the world.

You'll remain in my thoughts x

GU24Mum · 13/09/2020 22:34

I was so sorry to hear about your lovely boy. I hope that you, your OH and your other son are doing as we'll you can be - be kind to yourselves. X

Greenbks · 13/09/2020 22:51

@aloneinthenight I am so sorry.

I gave birth in February but my son died shortly after. Husband and I got to spend the night with our son beside us and shortly after we had to prepare his burial. It felt surreal, like we were wading through fog. We lay in bed sobbing for almost 3 days straight blocking the world out. I remember builders working outside and being shocked the world was still going on. Lockdown happened soon after and it was a relief to be able to shut ourselves away for as long as we needed. It took Many months and a rock bottom breakdown for me to even start Thinking about life and re-entering the world again. I’m still not there yet.

I feel your pain deeply and cry your tears with you.
Take as long as you need to, I know it will never go away but you will learn to function again. I have to an extent. Cry as much as you need to by yourself and with your family. Do what works for you and your family. There is no right or wrong after you lose your child. Seek support if you want or feel you need to on your own or /and as a family. It can help talking it through with someone and might be beneficial for your family.

And most importantly, be kind to yourself. X

aloneinthenight · 16/09/2020 18:38

Oh I'm so sorry, that's so hard.

We're trying hard to be kind to ourselves and take things easy. Everything is just so tiring.

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barefootcook · 24/09/2020 09:41

I am not sure what to say that will help but want you to know that I am thinking of you 💐☕️

Afloss · 18/04/2021 01:59

I’m so very sorry :( xxx

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