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My son may be dying

732 replies

aloneinthenight · 04/04/2020 06:07

Just that.

He has cancer, they have not been able to control it.

They have given him one last chemotherapy to see if it can turn a corner but his body may not be able to tolerate it and it may not work.

We have been told to prepare ourselves for him to deteriorate suddenly.

My husband can't be with us because my son also has Coronavirus so we are in isolation and he is with our other son.

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EarringsandLipstick · 30/04/2020 07:28

Hi alone how are you doing? ❤️

thisisexhausting · 30/04/2020 15:35

Still wishing with my all that your son gets better Thanks

womanthatfelltoearth · 30/04/2020 17:19

I hope that the treatment is doing its job. Thinking of you xThanks

minmooch · 30/04/2020 18:08

@aloneinthenight I have just found your thread. I'm so very sorry your son, and all of you are going through this.

My eldest son had brain cancer diagnosed just before his 16th birthday. It was a devastating time. Horrendous to watch your child so poorly and the helplessness at not being able to help them. Splitting a family, guilt at being away from another child. It's just plain horrendous and I'm so sorry.

I hope, with everything I have, that this latest treatment gives your boy the chance he so deserves. You and your dh are doing all you can just by being with him.

For us there came a time when we knew our boy just had nothing left to fight his cancer and the treatment. It's something that no parent should have to even contemplate let alone actually face. We had to change our mindsets to giving him the best most calm death we could. We surrounded our son with as much love as we could, talked about beautiful happy times. In amongst the most extreme pain there were moments of such intense raw beauty as we did everything we possibly could to just love him in every single second of his time with us. He knew he was never alone. My son too was the very best of us.

What you are going through is just so bloody unfair. Cling on to that hope. I shall be thinking of you all and I hope that this treatment works and he gets the chance.

Sending you gentle hugs x

finished31 · 30/04/2020 18:15

@minmooch such a cruel world yet you have time for someone else. What a lovely humbled person you are.

God bless your beautiful boy x

EarringsandLipstick · 01/05/2020 07:58

Hi alone letting you we're still here & thinking of you & your lovely boy x 🌻

Flossie44 · 01/05/2020 08:32

Sending you such huge love. We are all stood right next to you darling x

Howmanysleepsnow · 01/05/2020 08:37

Thinking of you still, and praying you both get through this 💐

mommybear1 · 01/05/2020 09:51

Thinking of you all Thanks

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/05/2020 10:08

Minimooch
You sound so strong. Flowers

minimummum · 01/05/2020 11:15

Sending love and thinking of you.

Straysocks · 01/05/2020 12:44

@minimummum I'm so sorry you lost your son, your words are so beautiful. Thinking of you and @aloneinthenight

MrsCalypsoGrant · 01/05/2020 12:54

@minmooch I don't know what to say. I can't imagine what you've been through. I send you all my kindest wishes, & hope for the best of times for your family going forward, with your son's memory held close.

OP I hope things are going as well as they can be. Still thinking of you x

LifeMatters · 01/05/2020 18:15

@minmooch you are so strong. Your post brought me to tears and I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I can't imagine and really don't want to imagine what you've been through. It is cruel and unfair for any mother to go through this pain.

Wishing you and your family all the peace and all the best in the world ❤️

LifeMatters · 01/05/2020 18:17

OP I'm thinking of you! I hope this treatment will work. Stay strong ❤️

barefootcook · 01/05/2020 21:28

Minmooch, I remember you from you from your posts about your DS. You wrote so well about your heartbreaking situation. I am sure your words will help OP.

Isadora2007 · 01/05/2020 21:33

Thinking of you and your son and your family @aloneinthenight and winging all my positive vibes and wishes for his treatment.

WingingItSince1973 · 02/05/2020 10:51

Have just seen this thread. Really hoping all is going the way it should. Thinking of you all and your beautiful boy x

crosspelican · 02/05/2020 10:57

I'm thinking of you this morning, Alone. Sending huge love to your beautiful boy.

EarringsandLipstick · 02/05/2020 21:33

Still here alone & thinking of you all ❤️

MrsCalypsoGrant · 02/05/2020 23:51

It's late but I'm still up & thinking of you @aloneinthenight Hope all is going ok x

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/05/2020 03:31

Alone hasn’t been back since Tuesday. I hope her ds is ok. 😞

ColdToesHere · 03/05/2020 09:28

I was thinking the same Mummyofalittledragon.

Alone, sending you you love & a virtual hug wherever you are xxx

womanthatfelltoearth · 03/05/2020 11:20

@aloneinthenight whether good news or bad sending know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers x

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aloneinthenight · 03/05/2020 13:25

He died this morning.

It was all very sudden and not expected. He didn't know what was happening.

We are now waiting for a car to drive us home to tell Son2.

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