How do you cope?

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My mum has been diagnosed with a life-limiting illness and I'm finding it really hard to cope.
I live with my parents and dd and am having to do everything for everyone and finding it hard.
I think the not knowing how long is left is the hardest thing, and it's almost like she's given up.
I feel like crying every day, but I don't want anyone to know how I feel. It would just upset them.

One day at a time, and on the bad days the next hour at a time.

My dm was diagnosed last April and is rapidly going down hill now. My parents live 10 minutes drive away, at home I have myself, Dh and 4 children. Very much in a similar boat, doing everything for everyone, no time to catch up with my own needs emotional or otherwise. I am beyond tired, I hide in the bathroom for a quick sob and then it's game face back on.

I hate the not knowing, and the apathy she is has slumped into.

My heart aches for you. Always here if you want to chat. Try and be kind to yourself

Ah Minx it's so difficult isn't it? I just feel like I've got to be strong for everyone and I'm finding it so hard.

A family friend died unexpectedly last week and I cried so much, but really it was tears for my mum. She's too young to die and I don't want to lose her.

You just do, DH was 18 months from being told there was nothing more they could do to dying, and every day you feel that you are in deaths waiting room, but you can’t show that as I had my two DC’s to look after as well as making sure there was no stress for him.