Bugger, DH has cancer

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

looks like DH has bowel cancer with secondaries in the liver, had a biopsy today surgeon told hime that diagnosis was a formality. DC's of 8 and 10, one with ASD, treatment plan being discussed next Thursday.

Yes, sadly I have joined the club, stage 1 ovarian cancer, had hysterectomy 7 weeks ago, all been rather scary :( x

Just saw your latest update on the "when was the last time you cried" thread.

Im so very very sorry you're all going through this.

PS Incase you think Im some random newbie, been here for 8 years and was originally 5inthebed

FiveGoMadInDorset
So sorry to hear about your DH. I was diagnosed with colorectal cancer and then discovered it had spread to my liver. My liver metastases were found in 2008, and were treated with surgery and more chemo. I'm alive and kicking. It all depends on the sort of liver mets you have, I'm told. In my despair after my 'cure' when I thought my cancer would come back roughly eleventy times a minute, my GP told me they had several patients on their books who had survived secondary cancer. My health isn't brilliant but it's well enough to work part-time and look after kids. I did work full-time for a couple of years but realised after escaping death I should be choosing life rather than a treadmill!

Triplets we talked a great deal at the time here and elsewhere but I have changed my name, and also mostly only visit for competitions. I'm sorry you're going through this too.

So DH has Stage 4 bowel and liver cancer, they are not holding much hope but at the moment are going to treat it as curable to aggressively, he will be having 4 rounds of chemo at 3 weekly intervals starting next Tuesday and then they will reassess after that to see if they will treat it as if they can cure of palliatively. Today is all the practical stuff, meeting with my mother and accountant as we can't afford to stay on in the house we are in at the moment so will need to move (large family country estate, lots of properties) etc

And we had to take the dog to the vet and was really thinking he wouldn't be back but he has sciatica

I am very very sorry to hear this update op.

I wish you and your dh the very best of luck for the future

Practicalities sounds like a calming place to start, well done for getting straight to it.
What hard news to have to take in for you all - as well as your irl support, please remember that we're here for you too.

So sorry to read your news. For the 2nd time this afternoon (bowel cancer is horribly common!) have a look at the fantastic 'Beating bowel cancer' forum.
Best wishes to you both.

I'm so sorry to read this Five, and hope that the chemo goes as well as possible for your DH.
My DH was diagnosed with inoperable stomach cancer and liver secondaries in May and has undergone palliative chemo over the summer - tbh it has been easier on him that I anticipated, although the 5th cycle was bad and they decided not to do the 6th.
It is such a shock for everyone, and you need to ensure that you have support as well as the medical and emotional support for your DH.
I used Maggies Wallace a bit, a few sessions with their psychotherapist.

I don't think I have anything useful to say in relation to your specific circumstances, but wanted to send you my best wishes.

Five, I'm so sorry your going through this.
my db is going through a similar nightmare at the moment.....he has bowel ca with liver mets, although the is having a palliative bypass on Monday and then may have chemo after this ( if they don't find anything else)
At the moment he looks well and is keeping calm, I don't know if he knows what the prognosis is, but because I work in cancer research I know too much and I just feel so useless
Agreed that your specialist nurses will be a great support to you and you must make sure you make use of all support available....our chemo unit also provides aromatherapy for those having chemo
I'd also ask if there's such a place as a day hospice - this is a fantastic place to escape to for reflexology, counselling, art therapy...it's not at all dreary or depressing...just calming and reassuring
Hope the chemo goes well and if your unsure about anything, do ask the oncology nurses

How did his chemo go today?

Sympathies, that initial shock and helplessness before a treatment plan is in place is the worst.
My SIL (41) was diagnosed with Stage 3 (?I think) colon cancer - had spread across liver and had some tissue on the lungs that seems inactive, not sure what it is/was.
She's had surgery, chemo, surgery, chemo - and 2yrs down the track is doing great. She still has fortnightly chemo, but admits if she had to have that for the rest of her life, she'd do it - not nice, but she is sick/tired for 4d out of the fortnight... so she still has 10 good days. She hopes to reduce/stop chemo next year, but doctors are concerned if it came back.

So, keep positive, it can be fought, and he can get better and he can also "live with cancer" for years and years and years, keeping it under control with drugs.

Only just seen this Five, sorry you're all going through this.

Only just seen this 5
I'm so very sorry x

Sorry to hear this, be kind to yourself and ask others for help.

With regards to your children, kids are extremely resilient and will cope with age appropriate information. I work with children and their biggest concerns are offen about things they 'know' but that adults haven't explained to them. Good luck to you all and especially your DH

Fanny, I have only just seen this. Sending you all so much love and best wishes (it's Bella btw) xx

This has just pooped up on active convos so an update

Two rounds down and DH seems to be handling it ok, the first couple of days are fine and then he feels sick and tired for a week after that and then perks up again, he has two more and then a CT scan booked so we are going to sneak in a quick trip to Ireland over New Year and take DC's out of school for three days. PIP has been awarded and they have started paying that, ESA has been applied for and whoever DH spoke to said it sounded like a straight forward claim and Dr was very happy to write and continue to write sick notes, only one pissed of cancellation for B&B so that is good.

Sadly my sister died last Saturday following a short stay in her local hospice.

Thank you for your continuing concern and support it is much appreciated

Hi pug good to see you on here

Oh Five, this so awful to hear. What a bloody terrible time for you all. Biggest love xx

Oh I'm so sorry op.

Five, so sorry for your loss, what an absolute shit time you're all having

Am so sorry about your sister .

The pissed off cancellation can well just bloody well piss off! How dare they

xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad your dh is doing ok.

Five my lovely, Oh my goodness

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister

Keep strong OP xxx