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think this is the end but we're not ready.

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lessthanBeau · 14/02/2015 21:55

I think my dB is dying, he was doing so well only yesterday now he's in hospital and they're asking about dnrs, he has lung cancer, its spread everywhere now, liver ,adrenal gland, lymph nodes spine, ribs, he finally seemed to be getting his bone pain under control was feeling so well and in less than 12 hours he has an infection and they're talking about the hospice if he doesn't respond to the antibiotics, god dammit we're just not ready for this yet!

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nilbyname · 14/02/2015 21:58

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Have you spoken to the hospice people? I found them immensely helpful and supportive when my dad was dying.

Holding your hand. Flowers

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lessthanBeau · 14/02/2015 22:23

thank you, no we haven't spoken to them yet, we have talked about it and he wanted to go there for his pain treatment but wants to die at home, its just that when the doctor at the hospital says this then its really happening iykwim, he's only 47 we were never going to be ready for this.

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badRoly · 14/02/2015 22:27

I'm sorry your db is deteriorating.

Hospice at Home were excellent in caring for my dad at home in his last days. It was run from the local hospice with support from the district nurses from his GP practice.

Ludoole · 15/02/2015 03:54

Im so very sorry for you.
My dp wants to die at home too....
He's a little older at 54 but he isnt supposed to go yet either.

Praying your db responds to antibiotics.
Dont lose hope until its gone...

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lessthanBeau · 15/02/2015 08:46

hope is the one thing I never let go of. I notice your post was early hours lud, so I hope everything is as OK as it can be for you xx I checked the dates on our bad news post it was only the 27th january I thought we'd have longer. Sad I wish you and your dp peace and strength xxx

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whatisforteamum · 15/02/2015 20:05

So sorry you are going through this with your DB xx

Wombat22 · 15/02/2015 20:18

This must be so awful for you and your family Thanks

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lessthanBeau · 23/02/2015 21:04

I am glad to report that dB responded very well to antibiotics and came home last Thursday, he's very frail now and having mobility issues but he's still here and still himself, one good thing to come from this, he was very frightened of dying but after being at the edge and having no memory of it, and being pain free and very tranquil that fear has passed and that's one less worry for him. he's says he's not going anywhere yet, we live to fight another daySmile

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Ludoole · 24/02/2015 01:07

Lessthan Im so pleased he responded to the antibiotics and that his fear of dying has lessened Smile
Havent been on for a few days so its good to read things have picked up for you db. Dp is doing ok. Im usually up late. I have trouble switching my brain off...

XLIX · 24/02/2015 01:15

I'm thinking of you both. God damn cancer. Sending you prayers for hope and time to spend with beloved DB and DP. Xx

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