Dc says they want hormone therapy

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My DC 14 has been out for about a year, was born female. We've been OK about it, trying with pronouns etc. They've been a lot happier since.

However my DH has said dc has mentioned wanting to take hormones.

What do I do now? Happy to have discussion and keep it open. I dont want to block, also equally dont want to lead them down "that' road too fast.

We can't necessarily afford private therapy. Take them to the GP?

Experiences and suggestions welcome, thank you vv much

Hi all

This board is primarily for parents of LGBT children to share personal experiences and advice.

Others are welcome to post but please be respectful that this is a supportive space.

Testosterone is a one-way street. Once effects kick in, she'll be hairy and deep voiced for life. I would see my responsibility as a parent to stop my child from this madness (I would never let them socially transition to begin with).

Ancient dinosaur? So your brain drops out once you hit 30 then? Ageism much? Experience and wisdom that comes with this means nothing then?

Human biology hasn’t changed. This generation hasn’t discovered anything new, nor have their invented sex.

I speak as a person whose sister would have absolutely been prime pickings for those who seek to lead children down a lifetime of medicalisation. Absolutely. She is a lesbian. Just because she liked ‘boys’ things, hated ‘girl things’ and wanted to hang out with the boys. Luckily my parents, dreadful dinosaurs that they were, accepted her likes and dislikes, and didn’t decide that she was in need of ‘fixing’.

I am pro trans but even I wouldn't let my underage child take hormones. I would pay for them to have impartial therapy to explore their feelings in a safe space. And I would tell them that if they wish to pursue that avenue when they are an adult and it's legal I would love and support them.

Transitioning thankfully wasn’t an option.

By 18/19 I was happier, out of school, and whilst I still wasn’t comfortable in myself I was ok.

I had my first baby at 24, and during pregnancy everything fell into place. I breastfed him (and subsequent babies) for over a year, and look back very gratefully at that.

Had I been a teenager in the last few years I don’t believe I’d have had the chance to naturally grow out of what should be considered a very normal phase.

Should maybe add that I’m also a lesbian, like many girls who decide they’re boys, which took a long time to work out (typical pattern with ND people!), and I do not conform at all to gender stereotypes.

No child should be transitioning, they need time to be children, free from anything like this.

It’s people like you with your experience that should be recruited by schools to talk to teenagers about their experiences @DolphinWars

It has got completely out of hand. There’s a lot to be said to saying “No, I’m not facilitating this in any shape or form BUT if this is something YOU want to progress once you’re an adult, I will be your biggest supporter and right behind you.”

OP I have direct experience of this.
I will share my story and hope it will help.

People like me - middle aged women - are largely ignored as irrelevant dinosaurs.

A group of us have written several letters to the NAS, who are completely captured in this cult that would happily see ND teenage girls on hormones and sterilised.
No one is interested in what women have to say.

Ever was it thus.

They are interested as long as the message “yes you can be whatever the hell you want to be whenever the hell you decide”

OP I said I will share my story and hope it will help.
My DD announced she wanted to be a boy when she was 14 (she had reached puberty at 11). She was being treated for mutism which we believed was brought on by bullying and a bereavement. She changed schools and got in with a group all whom were LGBTQ. I didn't realise at this point she was self harming. She was also being targeted by trans activists. By 16 my DD was seeking surgerical intervention. I refused to help until she was 18. She told me if I didn't pay she didn't want to live. These statements are typical of 'glitter famlies' which are cult like forums. She attempted to end her life twice. Why was I so unhelpful? Because I found out she had been attacked at 13. She was then bullied as she had 'allowed' it to happen. I wanted psychological help, which we initially received until we changed locations and got a doctor who offered her a surgery consultation at just shy of 18. He had never met her before and it took him 15 minutes to decide this non reverseable action was the right clinical decision. I refused to see him again. She never pushed it.
I refer to her as DD because at 19 things have changed. She still wears mainly boys tops and pants but a slight feminity is creeping in. Nails, brows and a desire to birth her own children. She is a lovely person and was heartbroken when an online 'friend' told her as a ftm she couldn't wear nail colour. I told her if it is OK for Harry Styles take no notice. I have no transphobia but worried endlessly. I have employed two trans people and both were unhappy. They were also medically damaged. I have tried to engage her in wanting to be a different kind of woman. She certainly doesn't want to be barbie. There is a place for non conformists, we don't need labels or hormones. She isn't ASD but has lots of querks. A bit of OCD and a food thing. Her poor mental health has abatted and we don't really have many run ins. She introduced herself by her birth name last week! She realises hormones will effect her fertility (she didn't) and has never asked again. She also has a boyfriend. What will happen next I do not know but the militant agenda is not there now she is happier within herself. I recommend counselling first and plenty of it. She still has gay friends as we all do but I have yet to meet these Internet friends who ruined her school years. She is off to university now, hopefully she has matured enough to avoid the political pitfalls.