My 14 year old daughter has said she wishes to be considered non binary. We have talked a lot about this over the past year but she is resolute and we have reluctantly agreed to use a non gendered name and pronouns.
I am extremely sceptical as she was an archetypal girly girl up to about 18 months ago. I'm convinced this comes out of not feeling like she fits in or measures up to society's high expectations for teenage girls/women. She is now inventing a back story whereby she has never felt female from a young age. I remember her childhood very clearly and she is basically taking other people's experiences and passing them off as her own.
She wants to see a therapist and I think this would be good. But I'm worried from things I've read that a lot of therapists seem to go straight to accepting a child is trans and starting down a route towards transition, whereas I'd like someone who can get her to explore other possibilities and perhaps get her to a point where she can accept herself as she is. If a therapist believes her stories of never having felt female, which are frankly nonsense, they might assume that she has deep seated dysphoria which I really don't believe she does.
I don't know how to go about finding a therapist who is more on the gender critical side than the trans-enabling side.