Work having impact on my MH. Do I just resign?

[NancyJoan]

i have worked for my employer for ten years, five years in my current role. In that time, the demands of the job, and the expectations have changed dramatically. Much more data/metrics driven than before, and I’ve had no additional training support with that.

At the same time, I’m also almost 50, with ageing parents etc etc.

My anxiety is taking over my every hour, I’m on anti anxiety meds, plus beta blockers, and still had a panic attack in work today, just from the overwhelm. If I asked, my GP would sign me off.

So, what to do? I’m on a 3 month notice period, and not sure whether to just resign, or ask for a negotiated exit. Anyone w employment law experience who can give advice, please?

Is your manager aware of how you’re feeling? It sounds like you need some time away from work to recover so why not talk to your GP and then to return with support from occupational health?

Resigning seems a bit drastic, especially as you’d still have your notice period to work.

Why don’t you have a chat with your work? You’ve been there such a long time you presumably have a track record and good credibility. Speak to your manager and explain how you’re feeling. See if it’s possible to come up with a plan to help manage the pressure. That would make more sense than walking away.

Not sure of your financial situation but if you claim UC, you will need to go through your employer's sickness procedures rather than just resigning or your benefit may be at risk.

Assuming you get sick pay, take some time off sick to recover somewhat.

Then make adjusting your workload a condition of your return to work. If they refuse you ask for a settlement agreement.

Are you a trade union member?

Are you on HRT? That might help with anxiety. Sounds so awful and not worth making yourself ill about

Just coming on here to say the same as @Nightmanagerfan.

perimenopause creeps up on many women who start to struggle with roles they have previously been very successful in. HRT can make a huge difference but you often need to be prepared for your GP appt and it’s often pot luck if the GP knows what they are talking about unfortunately.

all employers should also have a menopause policy and make reasonable adjustments to support staff who are struggling

it’s definitely worth exploring before you just blow your life up & resign

also don’t be put off by one GP turning you away it took me 3x and moving to a new surgery to get sorted

I would always recommend starting with watching the Davina documentaries

I don't know what field you work in but it is an extremely hard market for job hunters right now. I would explore every avenue to stay employed but with time out for recovery/support from your employer etc before pulling the plug.

No you shouldn't just resign, you have ten years' service and work is the cause of the issue.

You have the option to take some sick leave rather than resign, and discuss a reasonable workload.

Have you consider medication or therapy to help tackle elements of the anxiety,?

Sorry, just seen you are medicated. Hue long for and are they worth reviewing?

Therapy for my anxiety has been worthwhile. Not an instant fix, but very helpful.