Disabled husband and facilitating contact with child

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I split up with my husband at the beginning of the school holidays and moved back to my parents house in Kent with our six year old son.

For context neither of us drive, my husband is physically disabled but I thought he'd get three trains down to see our son as he used to when he was younger.

My parents are incredibly angry with me, pointing out that I'm expecting my disabled husband to get three trains over a two hour journey and if it goes to court I could be made to travel instead.

Husband has applied for an emergency prohibited steps order I found out this morning, how fucked am I?

My parents have also said that this is my rash decision and they will not be helping me facilitate contact if I'm ordered to, it'll be on me to sort out.

Help!

Yeah it’s right. You can’t just move your child without husbands permission. You need to get his permission before you move house. How far is the new location away from old location? 15 mins or so I think is fine. 2 hours he can make you move back to your old location. It’s where your son is settled school etc

Yes they’re right that you can’t move so far away without his consent. It’s likely he’ll get a court order forcing you to return to the child’s home area or at least nearby, so you should start planning on that basis.

The most common pattern of contact would be he gets your son every other weekend and half of school holidays, it’s not reasonable to expect him to do that much travel.

It is quite common for the parent who moved to be made to do the travelling.
As a parent you are responsible for ensuring that your child can have a safe and healthy relationship with both yourself and the other parent.
You need to coparent together making making joint decisions no one parent holds a trump card.

i hope this is a reverse?

if not - why the hell did you think it’s in a 6yo best interests to be moved over 2 hours away from his disabled father who’s health is likely to be made worse by travelling a 4 hour round trip twice a month at least to pick him up for contact?

or why did you think if you moved 2 hours away it was up to his dad to lag the contact costs? As well as I’m assuming you’re expecting CMS payments on top?

Im so glad parental alienation has become illegal. Not only has it stopped fathers from behaving abusively it’s going to stop woman thinking they own joint children.

What was the reason for splitting up? How is your Ex disabled? And did you have any alternatives that would not have taken you so far away?

If, for instance, your ex was abusive and you couldn't afford anywhere to live near where you used to live, a court might not find in his favour. But generally they'd frown on you making it hard for your DC to have a meaningful relationship with his DH if there are alternatives.

Your poor child…. You have removed the ability to see their Dad…

You need to move back and live closer to your exH or learn to drive and facilitate all visits.

If it goes to court you will lose

Have you signed your child up to a new school without their father's consent? Sorry OP a court is likely to be critical of you unless you had strong reasons for immediately fleeing such a distance.