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Brother staying in Mum’s house

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tiredofworking · 21/04/2026 18:55

My mum is in a nursing home and has no capacity. She has savings and 2 properties. Currently she has CHC funding but this is obviously subject to review.
All 3 of her children have POA. One sibling never left home, he is now 41. He paid a token amount of board. My father died and he continued to live with Mum.
As my mum will not be coming home I assumed we would sell main house but he has issued legal letter stating he will be staying there long term. All owner expenses to be paid from mum’s money.
My sister and I are fuming he is living on the cheap like this. I’ve reported him to office of public guardian but they won’t help.
What can I do without spending a fortune on legal fees???

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JustCabbaggeLooking · 18/05/2026 12:17

It's joint or joint and several.

sleepwouldbenice · 18/05/2026 12:37

Waterrush · 23/04/2026 16:14

These things always make me uneasy. It's all very well to be up in arms about him living in the house and depleting her assets, but your mother doesn't care, she has no need of the assets, it's all about depleting your inheritance. Which doesn't make you much different to him.

Ridiculous
The assets are used for her care
The assets would go up if he paid commercial rent
Whilst she's still alive the POA have to act in her best interests by looking after her assets
Give your head a wobble

NotThisRecordNotThisRecord · 18/05/2026 12:53

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